Sleep eludes me...

[Windyred]

2 am here and my brain won’t shut off. Just found out my ex is engaged and it’s brutal. Wish I could just sleep away the sadness but that’s not working. I was starting to come out of the longest and most debilitating depression of my life and hoping this doesn’t derail me. 🙁

[Hidden]

Sorry if the relationship has died and now your ex-boyfriend has moved on there is nothing that can be done, you need to move on. Possibly look forward and go out with friends and make yourself available to new chances of meeting new people. I would personally not move onto a new relationship straight away. A Dead Cat Bounce is not the best way to look for someone new, divert your expectations to a more inclusive life and eventually you will move onto a new person to love

BOB

[Windyred in reply to Hidden]

Yes that’s my plan! I have been doing well at that but occasionally there’s a setback that hits me for a couple days. Unfortunately I don’t think heartbreak is a once and done type of thing.

[Hidden]

This must be upsetting. Just as you thought things were on track you have some news which makes you think you won't ever get over it. Getting to sleep becomes a problem when you dwell on it. You should feel relieved as he was not the right one for you. Divert your attention with magazines books knitting or ironing. I turn on the sales TV channels and feel sleepy in minutes..those vacuum cleaners and pressure cookers exercise machines. I find comedy or animal documentaries calming. Eat some breakfast and drink plenty and if you need some sleeping tablets they might help . Hope you feel better in a few days and put yourself first not dwell on the past.

[Windyred]

So I slept on the couch last night and slept well. My mattress is new but my headboard and frame were from my marriage. I’m in the same house. Maybe it’s messing with me. But it was such a relief to sleep. Whatever I have to do!