Appreciate advice...

[Tikirob]

I complain a lot so fair warning this is a woe is me listing. My uncles wake was today and funeral tomorrow, this my mother’s brother, my mom just passed away 4 months ago and her wake was at the same place so it brought up lots of sad memories on top of feeling upset over my uncle. I currently don’t have a place to live. I have been staying in my car and on friends couches. My partner and I split and she wanted me out of the apt. This is because of my OCD symptoms, she cannot put up with them anymore. Saw her today and she told me to take care of myself...I was exhausted and in a fog, checked out but upset she wanted me to take care of myself when that’s the issue I am having a really hard time doing that. Everyone is telling me to love back home with my Dad. My parents had a bad relationship and slept in separate rooms since I was 14. There is no bed for me to sleep in and my moms stuff is all over the place. It’s a place where I have lots of sad memories and my moms absence to contend with. I am being told that if I got to the shelter system I could get housing in three months the quickest but NYC shelters are tough and my contamination OCD would put me in the mental hospital more than likely. I am still grateful to be alive, have money for food, and hoping life has better things to come. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Hidden]

I'm sorry to hear you're having a difficult time. It sounds like many bad things are going on at once; that's a lot of weight to carry.

I don't have answers, but I can try to give advice. My first advice is to maybe job search if you do not have a job because having a job can help get you a place other than your car. I know many things that money can't buy are going on, but it is certainly difficult to cope when you have to take care of your basic needs first. Like with the model, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, your first basic needs are food and shelter.

I'm not saying my advice will solve all your problems, but maybe it can give you the start you need in order to move forward.

[Tikirob in reply to Hidden]

Thanks. I believe getting a job would be a much needed distraction and good for the finances I definitely have to get back to work. Appreciate the advice.