Hey

[Skito1]

I’m an 18 year old. So since I’ve started university, I just haven’t felt right. My moods are off, my diet is off and I constantly feel like giving up. I spend days at a time in bed, missing important lectures, unable to get up and do something. I struggle making new friends, I struggle keeping conversations, I’m losing contact with almost all my friends from high school. I can’t concentrate, I sleep the days away. It’s reached a breaking point where I either give up with my degree, which I don’t want to do, or I do something about this. I just. Don’t know where to start. I’m behind on work, and it’s looming over me, and I just can’t seem to get myself out of this place.

I realised that I haven’t felt truly happy for years now, and it’s finally accumulated to now and I need help. I don’t want to worry my parents, but who am I supposed to turn to? What do I do now?

[Willow-Dawn]

Hi! I recently felt like this too. I turned to a therapist and a close friend. Just told them all my problems how I felt and they helped me make sense of my feelings. I reached out to my parents and told them what was going on but more so told all my problems to my therapist. Just because i felt the same way as you and didn’t want to worry them. I also started exercising and journaling and this helped tremendously with my anxiety! Don’t be afraid to reach out.

[Kat63]

Your parents would probably try to help you. Since you’re at school, you might want to try the university health services or counseling service. They often have great resources for students.

[rothko]

Hello! You are not alone. Many freshman are overwhelmed when they first go to college because it is such a new experience. You’re in a completely new environment with new people. And on top of that you have classes and assignments. It’s a lot!

You said you don’t want to give up your degree. I echo what many others have said about college mental health resources and therapy. One thing a therapist does help on is meditation and mental exercises so that your thoughts do not control you but rather you control your thoughts. You can learn how to believe in yourself. Does your school also offer general guidance counselors?

It sounds like you are overwhelmed by a number of different things. While they are all related to “depression”, have you tried tackling one? Joining a college club could be helpful- you’ll meet new friends and get a boost of energy from that which will in turn help out some of the other areas.

Change is VERY hard especially what you’re going through! But just know you are not alone. I wish you all the best for this journey. You will feel really good once you push through it!! It’s not easy to get into college let alone go through it so give yourself some props for getting there and trying 🙂.

[Hidden]

You are normal, University is new, overwhelming, you are fine. First you need to go to University resource center. Ask them for assistance. They have programs for new/Freshmans students like you. They will help you get situated. Go ask for help. Lots of people get help to figure out University life. You are normal, you are just overwhelmed. Go ask for help, they will help you