Sleep problems

[Coolid]

Don’t get sleep at night, overthinking all the time. About past, future, anybody else has the same problem.

[Richardr21]

I think the answer would be to understand we can't control what we think, we can only remember what we thought but from which we could not control.

[Hidden]

All the time, but you have to remember the present and future are dependent upon the variable of sleep. Is tomorrow going to be any better with you fretting about it and also having a lack of sleep? Likely no. It will likely be a huge benefit to let it go and not worry about it. The future is out of your control for now. Whether it's the past or the future, it is what it is. We all think about it because the past kind of learns the brain as to how to act on the future, but there's only so much that we can control.

I think it's okay to reflect for a bit...nothing wrong with that, especially when you first take a seat in bed. Afterwards, your mind needs to treat thoughts like anxiety. "Okay, great, I'll jot that on a note pad for later or try to remember all of that, but I need to sleep. Pass along into message box for when I can get to you later." Much like mindfulness where we stop an active thought during meditation, we merely return to the deep breathing that we're focused on. It's completely normal and fine for your mind to wander, just keep guiding it back to sleep. If you're having trouble sleeping, you might try melatonin, magnesium, or a medication from your doctor.

Otherwise, try to set the mood for sleep....cool, dark, and no blue light (this being phone screens, TVs, computer screens, and so on). If you absolutely need one on, many come with a "blue screen off" option that turns them orange-ish but doesn't cause stimulation. Avoid caffeine and nicotine. Try a "white noise" machine, eye covers, ear plugs, or anything that might distract you. Reading is another excellent thing to do before bed...those thoughts won't have a chance to be thought of while you're engaged in a good book which actually helps activate parts of the brain towards a better bed time.

Overthinking is normal and typical of an anxious mind. We dwell on the past and try to predict the future. Your goal should be to deflect those thoughts at bed time...and really mindfulness is one of the best things there is. YouTube and many apps actually have mindfulness sleep audio sessions that do wonders. I've used one for sleep to recover from a panic attack....and was out cold sleeping instead of just getting back to normal. Something to try. I hope you're able to get those thoughts to cut you some slack so you can sleep. Best of luck and hope some of these suggestions helped.

[Coolid in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for all the suggestions, will try mindfulness videos/audios for sleep and also consult my doc for some meds

[Ragdoll15]

You need something to take your mind off the deep thinking. I agree also that there is nothing like a good book for relaxing the mind. I don't think I would fall asleep easily if I did not read.

[Hidden]

Yes this has been me before I’m better now that I’m on Lexapro and honestly my prayer and spiritual life have saved me and calmed me a lot. I sit by a candle and pray every night and sometimes cry too. I let it all out and then go to bed.

[Coolid in reply to Hidden]

And what if your present situation is bothersome and causing anxiety

and making you sad. And you cannot even leave the person you living with. Because I am scared to be alone. How do you deal with that situation, any ideas

[Hidden in reply to Coolid]

Well, when I decided to leave my husband I went back and lived with my parents. I got a psychiatrist and a psychologist, I cried a lot and went through a lot but it got better. I don’t think I could’ve gotten better if I stayed in that situation. I know other people who stay and find a way to live their lives somewhat happily

[Coolid in reply to Hidden]

That is the problem, I have nowhere to go if I leave him, not even my parents. My mom is there but she is herself living with my older sister and her family. So i cannot go ther, for me only other way would be to find another man. Which is quite difficult at my age. And I know I cannot live alone anymore. In fact that is the reason I decided to get married. But didn’t know my husband is gonna turn out as not a understanding person. God I don’t know what to do, I feel stuck.

[Hidden in reply to Coolid]

Can you live near your sister and mom? At least be near them? Or can you get an apartment and have your mom live with you? Or look at the ads and see if another woman is seeking a roommate?

[JAYnLA]

I put an app on my phone called Headspace and it has some 'sleep' items that you can listen to. They start with some breathing exercises then go into stories with nice ambient sounds in the background. They have really helped me to drift off and keep my busy head at bay. I recommend it.

[Hidden in reply to JAYnLA]

Agreed with this one. Headspace is one of the many great apps that help with sleep, mindfulness, and meditation. I used it for a bit myself.

[hisipiki]

Me! I have the same problem. Now it's almost 3 am and I m still bothered by my past painful experiences. 😔

[dore13]

I use youtube, they have subliminal messages to sleep, while all you here is serene music. It works pretty good for me. I am the type of person medicine doesn't work on, so I can't take sleeping pills.

[SammulBaloch]

Believe me, I'm also facing the same problem, Coolid I can understand how you are feeling right now, It's surely not easy to escape from this trap.

But you can share everything with us in this community, I always feel better when you open up to someone, Same thing I'm doing here to get some relief.

Hope we will get rid of this condition, and good days are coming ahead☺