Would love some realistic suggestions on how to get through the holidays. A very lonely and sad time for me.
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The way we are coping as we try to avoid christmas, and everyone elses happiness, is by having the radio or TV on all the time.
Watch every film you love. Be kind to yourself and eat and drink what you want. Even adverts on TV about christmas hurt. Crime TV programmes are good, and anything true life. Also quiz shows.
If you can go out for a walk every day. Especially if you feel lonely. Its amazing how many people say hello when youre out for a simple walk.
And most importantly be good to yourself.
Sending hugs.
3brokenhearts
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And I’m sorry you have 3 broken hearts! I know how hard one is! Here’s to healing them all!
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Thank you.
Our small family lost our very special cat so suddenly a few days ago. We all miss her and are in excruiating pain. She was only 3 years old, beautiful and healthy.
She fell asleep and never woke up.
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I am so sorry for your loss. You must feel sad.
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Someone ripped my heart out. Our hearts. We're all so sad. Theres no reason why she died. She just did.
Her sister cat, who has been with her since birth, is so lost today.
Some new toys are on their way tomorrow. I hope we can all find a little happiness somehow.
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A great idea... new toys for “sister cat” who needs your love and affection too!
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I am so sorry about your cat. Losing a pet is very, very hard.
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Thanks for the ideas
Thanks... good ideas!
I been watching a lot of Christmas movies which starting to depress me and am not looking forward to Christmas and I feel so sad that am not because every year I say am ready for Christmas and months before it hit I get very depressed and am always left lonely and anxious and depressed
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Christmas is never like they show in the movies. I dont understand why we lie about this time of year. It only makes sadness more painful, and loneliness more suffocating.
tamka38 in reply to
U right
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I agree. I’ve just learned to accept my sadness and I look forward to January!
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It cant rain all the time.
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please “follow” me so I can say hi from time to time!
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Done.
Thanks for talking and listening tonight. It helps for a short time.
Cant sleep again tonight, my cat just woke up crying and missing her sister. Giving lots of cuddles.
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Giving cuddles to kitty is a start! Baby steps. It will take time and I’m so sorry for your loss. When I can’t sleep
( every other night 🥺) I grab a book or magazine and before long... I’m asleep. Maybe give it a try?!
Christmas is very hard for me. I have nobody to be with and it's so depressing. I see everybody else putting up Christmas decorations and laughing and wishing each other Merry Christmas and I get jealous. 
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Bonkers!
You’re not alone. Holiday time is very hard on a lot of people... me included!! I try to not think too much and sometimes it helps to just watch the pretty lights. I TRY to be thankful for what I have, instead of what I don’t have.
It’s a real tough time, thats for sure! I am wishing you a happier New Year and sometimes just knowing that someone else cares and knows your pain can help. I hope so! I wish you peace..... and I wish it for me too!!
I'm not good at reading anymore. My mind wanders too much. My fiance is able to bury himself in books with happy endings right now, and for that I am both glad and envious.
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just look at pictures??
Consider the reason for Christmas? God sending his son to bring hope and love to the world. He loves us and wants a relationship with us. Yes he is still alive and waiting with opens arms for us to come to him. People will disappoint, Jesus said he will never leave us or forsake us. Look for a good church near you and give it a try. Merry Christmas.
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thank you for such inspirational words! Merry Christmas to you too
your not alone any more...and if you have any kind of community center groups that get together for holiday pot lucks for others without family or friends to go to, I did that one year...another thing to do is volunteer at a soup kitchen....it's warms the heart and good for the soul.....and we are here..I will check in christmas day and christmas eve....
You might find an AA group that is going on during Christmas day. It would be a good place to be around people. It might be like a potluck event.
John
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I’m not an alcoholic, so will they let me join in??
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I’m embarrassed to admit that I really have no where to go. How pathetic! My relatives are all out of state, and I’ve lost some very close friends! Guarded now with “new” friends and embarrassed to tell them I’m alone. I will rally and be glad for my many gifts... but i know some tears will be shed! I used to have the parties where everyone was welcomed... neighbors, neighbors families etc.... that was a big joy! Soup kitchen serving sounds like a great idea!
I think you would be attend because you need support during the holidays. AA might also have a support event for new years.
John
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