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Hey all, feels like a long time since I have last did a post on here. I’ve been a hard a few months for me . I have recently lost my nan last month and watching her pass away and having to sort everything out and I haven’t stoped since she died and I am struggling soo much. I’m wanting to cry and be alone most days now but I’m finding it hard my body was me to cry and be alone but it won’t let me and I don’t know what to do. My mind so busy but I want to grieve for my nan now. :( just don’t know what to do. I have no support in all this at all. My family usless I have no friends supporting me at all. Anyone help pleases.

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Hi Hayley, I hope I'm not too late to reply.

I lost my dad last yr and understand what you are going through. Its hard right now but you will be ok. they say time is a healer and that's exactly what it is.

Give it time and surround yourself with positive people and people you enjoy being around.

If you don't have that then I found it helped when I just let it go and cried until I had no teas left and threw myself into work, keeping my brain busy and my body on the go.

hope you feel better soon, If you need to chat do feel free to the private message facility to Edited by Admin email me

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glo100

Sorry to hear about your nan duc I no its very hard when someone close to you passes away and you love dearly now wat you want to do is stop running around slow dwn abit you are all stresses out and your making yr self worst with the fibro as it will start to flair up you must hv bn really close to yr nan and don't fit your nan loved you very much duc if you to talk private message me I'm a good listener don't think yr alone ok take care glor xx

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Hello Hayley95

I am sincerely sorry to hear that you have recently lost your Nan and that this means you are struggling to cope with both the emotional and physical aspects of dealing with grief. I understand how you must be feeling losing someone close to you and with little to no support it must be a hard time for you at the moment.

NHS Choices share the following information about dealing with loss

nhs.uk/Livewell/emotionalhe...

There are companies online that say they help with all the tasks that need to be completed after someone dies however this costs a set amount of money and I wouldn't want to pry into your financial situation. However, if you are struggling due to poor health it might be something to look into if you think it would be helpful to you to focus on grieving for the loss of your Nan.

It is a difficult time, so it also might be worth speaking with your GP about your health and asking if there is any help they can provide plus whether any support like talking to trained professionals or support groups nearby. It will take time to go through the grief process which is said to have 5 stages denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance (Kübler-Ross) and you'll be able to remember all the good times you had with your Nan without as much sadness as before.

If you need to talk you can always post here and members will always listen

Thinking of you at this sad time

Emma x

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