hi brothers … is everyone is out trying to get some fine spring QOL time in ? I hope this question is ok here, if not feel free to make this disappear mods.
I’ve got a friend in the Portland area that cares for his widowed mother with dementia ….its really wear ing him down ….as she progresses … and he needs a break / s from the strenuous demanding care. I wondered ( for him, and this could help us as well ) if anyone knows of or has direct experience with a respite care facility or in home respite …. to help save my buds sanity and spirit ?
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I’m in Dublin Kaliber so I can’t offer help but I’m sure some folk will reach out in Portland. Went through looking after my mum for 12 years. Rough road. Best wishes to your pal.
Thank you sister ( cringe yayay ) , I appreciate it. I don’t expect much response , but I thought it was worth a try. You know how heartbreaking and mentally draining taking care of dementia mom can be . As time passes , they become more unmanageable and trying , I dunno how you’all do it.
Yea , Ive already edited it yayayay red faced. Thanks just the same …brothers and sisters here are all in this together. Our worlds would turn to living hell without you’se helping us.
Hay buddy … you are welcome to jump in anytime on any of my threads, far as I’m concerned. It’s all kewl here . That any …all of us can get on and just associate / socialize / commiserate is pretty kewl … sometimes just venting is good too. 🎼he ain’t heavy, he’s my brother.
Nose in anytime Camp, you’re a top guy here too! You guys don’t need me telling you that but you guys keep me going sometimes. Please stay around for a long time. 😘
It is very difficult, even when the patient is in a care facility. My mom passed just this morning after suffering from rapid onset and rapid accelerated dementia. Just last summer she and I were playing online bridge together. Her illness struck fast and hard. Kudos to those who provide care to such patients.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mom Jancapper , my heartfelt condolences to you and your family. It seems like it’s just everywhere sometimes. I hope your mom was comfortable and surrounded by loved ones, if that was possible. A big ehug for you Jancapper.
"Just this morning"... A great piece of your dear Mother has taken over your heart. Only consolation to you and your entire family at the end, is that your Mom was really not who you knew her to be and thankfully that didn't last that long. You will remember her for the wonderful human being she was and how she would occasionally beat you at bridge. May she find peace and eternal rest as an angel who will love and watch over you every moment of every day. God Bless to all........
Super K, The center that we previously used has recently closed, so I don't have anything off the tope of my head. However, my sister has been in the care giving field for years, so I called her and asked her for recommendations. If she comes up with anything i will pass it on.
Take care and enjoy your QOL. I was at the park yesterday and the sun was warm enough that the turtles were up sunning themselves. First sighting this year for me.
Lucky you we may finally be in the 50 and 60s next week. Of course it could change by then but 🤞🤞🤞. I hope your doing well or at least as well as can be expected.
Well I’ve tried to answer you better but mods have “ edited “ my reply abilities to your post. Anyway ( if this gets thru ) thank you buddy for jumping in with your nice content. Back at you , hope you can get some sustained quality QOL time in yourself. I appreciate it.
Might be different in Portland, but many non-profit Hospice organizations in the metro Denver area have caregiver respite resources and benefits as part of the hospice enrollment. Too many folks don’t know that hospice programs can offer benefits much earlier than the final days or weeks. Your friend might want to look into this now, if his mother isn’t already enrolled.
This probably isn’t much in the way of info but I recently asked this question myself. I was told by a hospice nurse in Portland that during the pandemic respite care facilities were shut down. Now that it’s more under control things are slowly starting to open back up again but in short supply. If your friend’s mother has a social worker that would be the person to ask
check with the local nursing homes….many(in my part of the world…the east coast) have respite units….you can bring your relative in for ,say, a week and often insurance will cover…..it’s worth a shot. I’m using information from 9 years ago when I retired so matters might have improved or deteriorated in that time.
I’ve mentioned that to him previously, … and maybe take her over to socialize mornings at a local nursing facility … something like that . Don’t think he’s done that yet, probably looking for someone to come to the house. I’m not sure .
I'm sorry but I don't know how I can help in answering your question, but I do know you're a Good Man There Charlie Brown....even though you overdo your yayay's
This might be outside the lines but isn’t there national groups who help each other with families who have these issues- like my brother in-law got help from ALS , they gave his wife assistance.
Your friend might look into Visiting Angels or Helping Hands for Seniors. Both operate in the Portland area and can connect him with respite care for his mother. I work in senior services in a community about 20 miles south of Portland.
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