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QoL: Booked in for some Respite Care

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I have decided that it is vital that Jacqui, my wife and carer, gets some relief from me. It is not fair on her that she finds herself watching me during my every waking moment. So, I am booked in for 5 days of respite care at our local hospice, starting on February 13th. I will be carrying lots of paints and paper with me.

The hospice in my area is run by an Ashram called Skanda Vale, and was apparently paid for in part by Lottery Funding. It is staffed by volunteers who are mostly retired medical professionals, with everything from feeding me through reflexology to counselling. It is superbly equipped, with individual rooms acting as wards. There is a common room downstairs for those who wish it and access to upstairs via a staircase or a lift. I must admit to looking forward to going.

I don't know how Jacqui will fill her time; lots of Netflix and YouTube , perhaps? Or maybe hours chatting with me through Facebook? Whatever it is, I hope she finds it provides some relief for her jangling nerves. She has been assured that there will be sufficient staff that I will have access to care at all times; and we have been sufficient times now for her to have developed trust in the staff.

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Mtnhigh

I love this painting! Not sure why, just do. I bet your hospice visit will be good for both of you. It sounds like a great hospice. Let us know how it goes and how your wife does with letting you go a little bit and having others monitor you. -Deb

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Scout4answers in reply toMtnhigh

Beautiful painting, again. Peace and Love Brent my talented friend.

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babychi

You must be a wise and generous spouse to your Jacqui. Pls update at your convenience. Enjoy your respite. Love the painting.

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HikerWife

Beautiful painting! One of my faves I think. I hope your respite time is good for both of you. I'm looking forward to seeing the results of your time with "lots of paints and paper". - Sooz

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Yank66

This is so considerate of you . As a caregiver of 10+ years, it has taken a toll that my husband hasn’t always understood. He is well enough that I can get away occasionally with our daughter or a friend. It has made a huge difference in my mental health even though I worry about him while we’re apart. I hope you both will benefit from your respite care. Keep on painting! Beautiful work!

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j-o-h-n

This one is Spot On....... and the wife will be Spot Off for awhile....You both will benefit from the temporary separation......... Most husbands would prefer the permanent ones.... Take care and don't forget to wear your painting smock.....

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n

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keepinon

I am not into art so much, but I like your paintings! Best of luck to you. Enjoy your "vacation".

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Kaliber

another nice work Brent. Thanks for keeping us posted about your hospice activity.

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