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Upon losing my father , some retrospect. Take what you need and leave the rest.

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Tysm for all. Unfortunately my dad's death was long and horrifying bc he couldn't breathe . He died of leukemia to my knowledge, not prostate cancer and please dont jump on me for saying so bc I am vaxxed and I'm not an anti vaxxer,but I have no doubt that that the vaccines sped up his demise as he got dx with cll months later and no,he never got covid. I did and got vaxxed with him and I'm crippled since covid bc I already have ddd,as fibro Endo adeno and apparently they believe now a neuroinflmmatory autoimmune illness . I had a severe reaction to my covid vaccines and got rebound and long covid,and i dont wish to be political ,I just want others to know that my dad was fighting with no pca spreading for seven years. Post covid shot and obviously all treatment , he got cll . My dad did not die of prostate cancer my friends . My dad died of a disease he got from very aggressive treatment and then one could factor in poor diet, a life around car fumes ,the covid vaccine ,and enormous stress. Through all treatments my dad's pca only grew maybe slightly . He had mets head to toe from his scalp to his feet since dx at stage 4, but with treatment no met ever significantly grew , so please my friends ,though i believe in using alternative treatments to help the body handle all the pca treatments, he refused and it's important in my heart that you know to please have a hematological oncologist bc when he first could not breathe all hospitals and pca Drs said he was fine , and with research and by his choice ,he sought the help of the onco but he was so concerned about the pca he chose to go into a pca trial rather than treat the leukemia and his pca recently put him into lu177 when his body could not handle it ,but he was trained to be at war eith pca and he needed care for the advancing cll. I'm writing tis post to protecty warrior friends bc all Drs seem to not want other oncologists involved and Drs egos prevented my dad from getting proper care. May you all have a beautiful day and celebrate with me the life of a man who worked tirelessly to bring joy and love into the world . My sister feared for me and i was with him untill ten hours bf he died . Once he had almost no ability to speak he use his last breath to call my sister and I and his last words to me were a labored ERICA I LOVE YOU ERICA. and then he asked my older sister to help him die . I miss him every second of every minute ,and i write this in grief becsuse my dad always taught me, of you can't help yourself help someone else. It's who you are .

With love ,your friend and forever advocate , Daddy's little girl

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Tall_Allen

I'm sorry for your loss.

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Kaliber

Heartbreaking news … I’m so sorry …. ….

😥😥😥

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Lyubov

So very sorry for your terrible loss. What great comfort you were to be with your father to the end and both express your lasting love for one another. Bless you & your sister with the legacy of your father's love and strength to help you carry on.

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Daddyishealing in reply to Lyubov

Tysm to you and to all..I can't stop waking screaming with visions of him crying and the wake is tomorrow. These messages are comforting me in the middle of the night and I truly need you all. Ty

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MyDad76

I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom died of pancreatic cancer and she too had problems with breathing at last stage. Very difficult to witness and you feel so small, so powerless.

Please know that you did absolutely everything you could. And that most of all, you were there for your dad. I hope you find comfort in that. Your dad suffers no more, he is now free.

Please feel free to reach out if you feel so.

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dockam

Oh dangit, so very sorry to hear of His Passing :-(

Another Brother gone

Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more

Big hug from CA

Randy

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Daddyishealing in reply to dockam

Exactly how I feel everyone I read another obit and start crying over those I did not know . I put mfkevcste in my message to my dad on the obit to ride awareness and suggest donations but I can only horm my father cared so much about kids he donated to st jufes in his death

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dockam in reply to Daddyishealing

No man is an island,

Entire of itself;

Every man is a piece of the continent,

A part of the main.

If a clod be washed away by the sea,

Europe is the less,

As well as if a promontory were:

As well as if a manor of thy friend's

Or of thine own were.

Any man's death diminishes me,

Because I am involved in mankind.

And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;

It tolls for thee.

My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Peace be with you 💙

Randy 🙏

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Daddyishealing in reply to dockam

I'm a poet indeed that

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K-xo

You are amazing! With all the care, love and support you provided for your grandparents, mother and father, I can’t wait for the incredible, and well deserved things coming your way. I have no doubt your father passed feeling loved and extremely proud of you. My heartfelt and sincere condolences for your loss. Keep the faith, especially through this period of grief. You are stronger than you realize. Xo

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Daddyishealing in reply to K-xo

Aww you remember who I am. How very special. Tysm

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CAMPSOUPS

Its really difficult to lose our parent(s). And the experience of witnessing their passing is very traumatic/emotional.

I witnessed both my parents pass in hospice. Takes a long time to not remember them in their final hours of labored breathing (Cheyne-Stokes breathing) and to remember them in good times.

I hope the best for you coming and share your sadness and loss as best I can from here.

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Daddyishealing in reply to CAMPSOUPS

Al my love

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Realistic

So sorry for your heartbreaking loss l feel your pain. Ive been through it and like you will always miss my darling pa. Love to you and your family SheilaFxxx God bless your darling Dad

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Daddyishealing in reply to Realistic

Tysm daughters will always unite feel free to reach out whenever

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Cooolone

Sorry for your loss and condolences to all the family as well. May God Bless all of you!

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Lokicliff

I’m so sorry for your loss of your dad. My father died in 2019 from CLL. Sounds like your dad was a great person and knew deep love from his family.

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hopeful1956

I am so so sorry to read that your dad has passed. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. Sending cyber hugs and love and light your way.

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Daddyishealing in reply to hopeful1956

Hugs received and returned 🤗 with love

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Mw921000000

Your relationship with your father reminds me so much of mine. I read your previous posts in tears. Nothing prepares us for these moments. I wish there was something to take away the unbearable pain of watching the people we love most suffer. My dad is stable at the moment and for that I am thankful. But I am mad at God and have lost my faith due to his diagnosis, and I’m trying to find my way back. You are currently going through the stages that I hope to not go through for a long, long time. I wish I can give you a hug and say it’ll all be alright, but right now I’m sure it feels anything other than that. The journey to healing is going to be long and rough, but you will get there. We all will. Please take care of yourself during this time. 💖 -Michele

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Daddyishealing in reply to Mw921000000

Michele I'm so happy to hear your dad is well. Dint let days or minutes go y like I did please dint really be present and I mean truly be present and you'll find your gif there in those moments. Xo

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Daddyishealing in reply to Mw921000000

Pm me how's dad sweetie ?

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Pattycakepgh

I am so very sorry to hear you have lost your Dad's presence here with you. He will always be with you, and I hope your memories of happy times you spent together will help you in the days ahead to remember and treasure having him as your Dad.

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Biobro

My deep condolences for your loss.

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Tinuriel

I'm so sorry. May you be surrounded by people who can provide you with comfort and care.

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Rocketman1960

Thank you for loving your dad to the end. I am certain he felt your love and was comforted by it. His will be done in all things.

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jackcop

I'm sorry for your loss.

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Bethpage

I'm so sorry for your loss of your dad. My husband has CLL secondary to radiation for PCa. I took your words to heart. We put CLL first as far as treatment concern, but perhaps that is because his CLL is very aggressive and his PCa so far not. I wish healing for you!

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Daddyishealing in reply to Bethpage

This means everything to me 💗💗💗

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Bethpage in reply to Daddyishealing

I have followed your every post, in part because of your dad's CLL, but mostly because of your compelling love and support for your dad. I wish you healing and finally peace. You did every single thing a daughter could do for your dad - and then some.

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Daddyishealing in reply to Bethpage

My sister actually was his primary and in control of most decisions bc I am too sick. I have no idea how she 45 min away for seven months ran s business and ran to my dad but I humbly admit it is she who deserves the most accolades . I was always there to emotionallly support him to stay instead of an aid e and he knew I loved him more than anything in the world and I'm positive he felt the same . We had a great dad,and for those who know me and my undying love , all that's beautiful in me ,I get from my dad . Tymsm for your kind words and condolences all.

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j-o-h-n

Daddy is healing......May he find solice in heaven,

j-o-h-n Saturday 08/12/2023 9:49 PM DST

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Daddyishealing in reply to j-o-h-n

First time you didn't joke cmon it's ok my dad would have. Love that about you

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j-o-h-n in reply to Daddyishealing

So your Dad's final words to you two wonderful daughters "Don't wait until you're on your death bed to tell people how you feel you might be too weak to lift your middle finger."

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Sunday 08/13/2023 1:40 PM DST

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garyjp9

My deepest sympathies for your loss.

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cancerfox

My condolences to you at this time of great personal loss. May your happier memories of your father give you solace in the days ahead.

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Blueribbon63

I am so very sorry for everything you father and you had to go through. May you find comfort in knowing that your Dad is resting in peace.

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Cancer2x

Yet another star blinks into existence in the evening skies, lighting the way for all who follow.

Pax

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Dachshundlove

What a giant hole the loss of your dear dad leaves. And he lives on in you, all that he shared/ taught and mentored is eternal. His suffering is over and may that truth comfort you in your pain And grief.

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Billiegirl11

I I'm a total wreck after saying goodbye to my dad yesterday morning after watching him deteriorated in he most painful ways. I spent the majority of the past month that he's been in the hospital just researching trying to find ways to help him get better. It was always one step forward two steps back. I have come to the conclusion that it is the spike protein from the covid virus AND vaccine AND booster shots that is wreaking havoc on people everywhere! The most survivable cancer diagnosis in the world is now 18 months till death in so very many cases!? Please I implore you look up Spike detox. Also not interested in getting political nor conspiracy theory debates. Not what I'm interested in. I just miss my Dad like crazy 😭, and if what I've learned helps even one person.. 😌 my best wishes thoughts and prayers to all of you! I do want to hear more success stories

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