I just wanted to send my love and healing energy and hugs to a community I cherish deeply . I am having a difficult time with severe clinical depression,but if anyone would like to reach out or anyone with a newly dx loved one I am always reachable and I've loved through my dad trying every med. My dad has a seven year fight with very advanced pca,but he loved and loved life even through the treatments . For all that need an ear esp the children of those going through first year or grief , reach out as I will be a pca advocate for life . Needless to say , im.suffering badly with grief andiss my dad every minute of every day.
My dear heros ty for the love thought the years and the advice
Love and pray for you all always,
Erica
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Erica, Sending hugs as no words are adequate to assuage your pain. Please do your the best to look for the sliver of sunshine even in the darkness. This has helped me in the past.
I wish I could give you a ((HUG)). Your father would be so proud of you for wanting to help others, even during your grief. Be kind to yourself during this very difficult time. 🩷
Tysm I know I am hurting but I also know someone else is being diagnosed today and others may need my guidance and if like to be a small light in the ever changing ups and downs of pca and my mom I held till her death of lung cancer . Im also looking for a dog to be a therapy dog in the cancer hospital . I pray my pain can help someone else from day one and I'll always advocate for PSA testing . There is healing on helping others my dad once said to me and that's who you always were. He told me don't ever let those who hurt you change your love of people . You are always happiest when you are helping others ..and he was correct .
Im trying to find if anyone knows s Chihuahua breeder or a rescue with small dogs reach out bcr and a soul I haven't met yet ja e people to help but breeder sold out my dog for more money and im looking daily but my hands are difficult to use . I can always commiserate bc I love with chronic illness and 24 hour pain .y dad once pain got him in the last year told me he had no idea how I do it and told me how proud he was. My sister did not want me there when he couldn't breathe and he told her to call me and his dying words were I love you Erica gaping for breath btwn each word . I will never be ok can't stop crying .
Im not a religious person but i do believe in the spirits of our recently deceased being able to send you a sign. Just ask them to give you a sign that your ok.
I did this for one of my brothers who i loved so much and he died in a plane crash. When i finally made it back to my remote job on the Aleutian Islands a month after he died i laid in bed and cried and asked him to please give me a sign and immediately the lights came on in my room. After that i was all done with overwhelming grief and i just felt so much better knowing he was ok.
I've been begging but my sister keeps getting signs as she's exexutress and his wife was dying for more when im disabled and totally reliant on the little he had left .my sister has gotten signs I've begged for signs and cried heaving out loud daddy please and nothing . 😢
The sign doesn’t have to be directly to you. My other 5 brothers and 2 sisters felt relieved when I told them what happened to me. It helped all of us heal. Time for you to start healing yourself and let things fall in place. Take charge of your own health now. Find out why you have this lifetime chronic disease. Do genetic testing, get your mothers and fathers genetic results since they had cancer they might have had genetic tests. These are all positive things to start working on. Check your diet, don’t listen to dieticians that promote the standard American diet. That pyramid is upside down. Find out if health unlocked has a group with your chronic disease. One forward step at a time. As my old drill instructor would say during long marches “pick em up and put em down”
Grief affects us all differently, I lost my Dad in 1995 to pancreatic cancer - it still hurts
Elated that you got back on and maybe something "guided" you back to see my latest post about an encounter with that lovely lady. Please keep in touch, either here or chat
My new Ventura"friend" just blew me away with her really lovely demeanor despite 20 yrs of a degenerative muscle disease. That touched my 💙
And you my Dear, out of the wonderfulness of your beautiful Heart, got back on HU despite Dad's passing, to offer advice, a shoulder to cry on, or just to be the Light in the Gloom of the newly diagnosed. You are a very Special Lady💙
OMG that is stunningly beautiful!!! Thank you so much 🥲🥲🥲🌞
I'm sharing this with my mom...
The pineapple express turned us into a swamp and our horses look like mud donkeys 😅. Fortunately not near as bad as we expected, and no trees down!! Strangely warm, but dropped about 15 degrees tonite.
Hope you all down south don't get it too bad either ... supposed to be a pretty good one. You might just have to QOL inside. I see beautiful music 🎶 🎵 🥰
Awesome, I figured that you'd dig it. This Prayer vid has hula dancers with Maila Gibson singing and they segue into "Hawaii Aloha" - we all learned it in school.
Rain on/off til next week, I managed two miles outside, wore a bunch of layers with a poncho over it all. Training for Make a Wish Trailblaze again in May
I gotta go down to Bakes for Abi from Kaiser as they won't ship cuz they think it's chemo 😆
LoL Randy ! What a collection...lovin it on a friday evening!! Chris Stapleton could sing the phone book (is there such a thing anymore? 🤔🤭)Better pull your hat down tight, looks like this storms for real 😁
Keep the tunes rolling
Eclectic mix of music can be found in your posts !!! 🎶 😍
I love this turning out some art to the community . If anyone wants to send their calming , angry, or inspirining music or poetry ,or even visual pieces, please add. Im sure we are all a bit 🥴🫣😢😡,and could bathe in the universal language of art.
Thank you for sharing your grief. Today is 12 years since I lost my dad to brain cancer. Miss him terribly. My Uncle is battling lung cancer and is down to months. My mom is struggling mightily with the pending loss and also battling triple negative breast cancer. My husband's PCa is still undetectable pending his next bloodwork in March. He is doing well for now, so grateful for that. My heart feels your pain. The only way out is through, but that is obviously no comfort. Thank you so very much for thinking of others!! And I'm so thankful you have stuck around...
When it rains, it pours............... Keytruda worked for my Lung metastasis due to a Melanoma..(worked for President Jimmy Carter too)..... I wish you all:
Wow!! You had melanoma too?! You are amazing 😮 Looks like you've proved mountains can be conquered. Well, on the upside, (except for my Dad who was just 76), my Aunt and Uncles were into their 80s and completely healthy and active until they weren't. (I guess we all are, but you get the idea) My mom is the youngest, 82. But no one was in decline. They were living life fully.
That just so much on one human brain, leave some brain real estate for art and love ,( see dockem 's reply and my own after and join in ). My heart hurts for you ,and your strength truly shines through.
Grief changes but doesn’t resolve. We learn to live life along side it. Depression is another matter. You are a wise person, feeling your own pain, and intuitively knowing that a path to healing can be found being present for pain and suffering of others.
I'm so sorry that your suffering is so great. It is so kind of your to offer your help to others. I know it doesn't help now, but know that the pain you feel will eventually, over time become less.
I’m so sorry for how hard it’s been to deal with this but I also cannot blame you because I’d be handling it the same way. I hope as time goes on you begin to smile when you hear or tell stories about him instead of crying. It will be a long road but you will get there someday. Grieve as much as you need but remember to take care of yourself in the process. Find joy in the little things in life, maybe even take on a new hobby. I have been mad at god for bringing my dad this horrible disease. I spend most days saying “if only my dad listened to me years ago to go to the doctor when he had his first PSA rise,” I daydream about my life a few years ago when I never thought we’d be in this situation. There is so much I would’ve done differently. My father is the greatest man I’ve ever encountered and watching him go through this has shattered my heart into a million pieces. I am still trying to collect those pieces. You aren’t alone here. I’m sending prayers your way and feel free to message me if you ever need to chat. -Michele
No one can take away the pain of loosing your dad. Remember though, he is with you in ways you don't see. Every minute you spent with him changed you. In that way, you will always carry him with you. You can never really loose him, he's always part of you. I hope that knowing he's always with you can lesson your pain, at least a little. Bless you!
Those are similar to words he told me at the ageb?!⁷of five when I kept having thoughts of death . He said Erica I could never die. I will love on through you and Lisa;"
Your dad wouldn't want you to be stuck in the grieving process. Get counseling if you haven't already. Your grief is a measure of your great capacity to love. Please work through it as we all support you.
I am sorry that you are in such pain. Grieving continues over a long period and may ebb and flow but it's always there. It does fade with time and finding activities outside of those associated with your dad's cancer is really important.
It is great you are offering to listen to us through this site but I hope you are seeking to find joy in your new life. I would imagine that is what your dad would have wanted. Find humor and companionship in your life as best you can. Every ray of sunshine keeps us going.
I find having a therapist help me get through my depression and anxiety over my health issues.
I hope you can find joy in your memories of time spent with your dad. Take care and good luck.
Tysm I think I needed to hear that today and got it late but you are exactly right he told me get involved with happy things even though I was going to go back to the children's cancer ward to volunteer . He said that's great but I think you need to focus on your joy for once . But I am my father's daughter and helping others is what brings me joy
By all means help others. Maybe add to your options mentoring kids to help them overcome tough situations to be successful or something else where there a positive outcome. I do this and it's a wonderful experience.
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