therapist in NJ or social worker and a psych who works with oncology .he is beyond clinically depressed ? Meds ?

[Daddyishealing]

New Jersey virtual therapists for bedridden who works with end of life but not in hospice so please done advise me to ask hospice . Does anyone have names or organizations specific links . My tremor is getting much worse under stress and I'm personally under dx four neuromuscular autoimnine multi system disease. I personally know it's very hard to find anyone who gets illness or pain but aside from cancer desperately we need to get someone for him and he'll probably respond better to a man though I'm not sure. Are there groups that are just virtual where people talk by zoom or something ..can you please help me . My dad is dying of depression, partly bc he realized she did t want to care for him at all and left him isolated and partly bc cancer or the amount of chemo has affected his brain bc this man just months ago said I'm not giving up and I know what I'm going to do and made the apts for lu177. He has life in him and I get that he's going to die ,but he does not need to die this sad and he doesn't want us . He has more of a response to strangers.

Ok we are on a very bad situation bc my dad has told me many months ago that his wife is mean and not supportive and makes him constantly on edge. There is emotional abuse but getting a social worker involved from the state they'd remove and put in nursing home . We can not get him to come with us and she had manipulated him . He had his heart set on lu177 and his Dr pushed it through for may but she's against it bc she doesn't want to pas him by and get radiated . It's about her not him. She told him it's unfair for him to continue treatment bc she wants to be with her family. I know it is illegal to try to stop a patient from getting medical care they need. She manipulated him out of what he was determined to do so he would be entering hospice when I do think his body could handle two treatments and he truly wanted to live until things got worse at home . Now he no longer care about the three daughters he adored. He won't get out of bed and he can but he's clinically depressed even on paxil no change and I'm not sure he'll try another . What meds can be given in a frail state to cancer patients ? Personal experience..just curious . Without treatment he stands no chance of getting out of pain but she told him staying alive is not fair to her so now he is saying he's not going. He desperately needs mental treatment and group therapy and if he chooses not to live bc of her and sadly it is bc he so wants her love as he has expressed this bf the decline got steep. Can anyone direct me very specifically to therapists by tele med or groups virtual, specific names of therapists or psychiatrists ?

[Sunlight12]

I don't have anyone to recommend, but maybe try searching the forum for "depression" and see what comes up... this thread might be a start:

healthunlocked.com/advanced...

-Sun

[gsun]

Sounds like you need to get him away from her. Can you take him in?

[Daddyishealing in reply to gsun]

We would love to. He won't leave and I asked him bf the decline and he said there's no relationship and no love and she's hurtful but what can he do .." I need her. I'm helpless now " he will not leave and his mind is not clear leukemia and pca and severe anemia so his brain that would have got him clear headed and out is not there . He just won't leave his room though as a friend he ha a better chance of her spending any time with him if he were elsewhere but he want to be in his house in their once bedroom ..bc she built herself her own bedroom. No msm deserves this esp not the most loving human I ever met . Sucks 😞

[gsun]

I don’t know what the laws are pertaining to wife/ husband inheritance following the death of one of them, but I would get your dad to write her out of his will if the law allows. She is abusing him.

[Daddyishealing in reply to gsun]

He won't . House and life insurance go to her and a million . Any other assets however few I believe are not going to her bc my uncle got control of the buildings he owns half of so she won't get the family property . But say he's not thinking clear enough bc I'm sick and on food stamps and she's one of those two eye lifts and a face lift women and Im worried about my future but he wanted her taken care of for life . It's nuts bc he lived for his kids . Nothing makes sense anymore . Such a beautiful brilliant mind and he can't think. I know it's neglect and abuse and I clearly told him but I have to keep the peace . Yes she wants him to die so she can take her millions and not be tied down ..she knows if she left now he could. Change the will do she's not going anywhere . It's so bad the sadness in his eyes after she leaves the room and had no communication no how do you feel no laughter no kiss no holding his hand . My dad was just too good of a man bc her daughter died nine years ago . He decide her never leave.

[gsun in reply to Daddyishealing]

You need to find a lawyer and if you have no money, look for legal aid or some knid of pro bono work. Try not to let her get away with it.

[j-o-h-n]

Get a couple of Gagoons to work her over a bit.....

j-o-h-n <===<<< Senior management is about to spike my spikes....

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Friday 04/14/2023 11:22 PM DST

[Daddyishealing in reply to j-o-h-n]

Lmfaoooooooo ....no reason to exclude any possibilities lol

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I’m very sorry for his plight . I’m sure this happens more than is known . I went through three crazy years initially . I was ready for meds and therapy . Saw a cancer shrink . He told me I was pre bi polar . Kalonapin two weeks then lexipro two months only then could we talk . I tossed the scripts and somehow later the fog lifted for me . I think a high percentage of us are on mood drugs . Some love them a lot .. I’d say try drugs and therapy . .. You see personally in the man you love the destruction of pc . It ain’t right . It’s a brutal beast . I’m happy that you are advocating for him . Compassion rules .. Keep on his side . I’m sorry for all his suffering . Scott ❤️🙏