Has anyone developed severe mood swings with Lupron? My husband is starting his 3rd year and since December his mood swings have increased dramatically. And the mood swings are extreme, loves me more than life, hates me with a passion. It's becoming quite difficult for both us. It's to the point where he even thinks of selling our place and splitting up. We've been married 21 years. And no, he won't go to counseling.
PS This is not a criticism of my husband. This is a search for help for both us.
5 years on it but no major swings, little moody at times , sad movie and happy movies bring tears and emotional at times. I would guess he is upset at the disease more than anything, you have to accept what you have, cancer sucks.
your cancer care team has people right at hand that can probably fix that for you. Many guys on here have mentioned great success. Ask your oncologist, he’ll help get it dealt with. I have it but far less extreme, I have Xanax from my care team that fixes it pretty well for me. Hope you get on the “ smooth “ side of that right away. Best wishes
Take enough drugs, it affects many guys differently , tried one of the drugs in the beginning but caused more issues so decided to make it a joke with hot flashes and dealt with them. I think alot if guys would benefit from support groups for this disease, others are going through the same things. I think he is frustrated with the disease and knows what the end could be. We have to take each day and find some sort of joy , the second round of chemo is rougher than the first , the side effects are not fun but lasts only a certain length of time. The alternative is worst so I have mentally prepare myself for the side effects, taking extra supplements has helped and arranged my diet accordingly. We should appreciate our care givers, friends and spouses for their support instead of taking it out on them, his oncologist and care team needs to know his behavior and can help. In spite of no cancer in my family history my sister died of lung cancer despite a healthy diet and no smoking. My brother was an alcoholic that runs in the family but died of cancer so go figure. There are guys in their early 40's and 50's that may never retire or collect social security or their 401's. I wish both of them the best and hope and pray they get the help they need.
it sounds like you have a positive attitude and you have to do what is right for you. I respect that, we all have to do that. That support group thought sounds like a really good idea too. There just isn’t any good side to having advanced PCa is there. This stuff sometimes seems to pop out of the woodwork all over.
Seems like you have a handle on things and know your possibilities… that’s what really matters. Your guy has you by his side, that’s the best medicine.
And one more thing...I love your idea about the support group. I will continue to gently work on that. Would help him so much not feel like he's the only one.
Let’s face it , most guys don’t want support groups.Many were taught to be stoic and not to share .. that is how the men in my family are . He’s not even joining here .. we have a high percentage of wifes as members just because guys don’t like to open up for the most part . Imho ..men, We think we are always in control , even if we are not? Basically you can’t ( make ) him do anything. He has to want to change. In my case I admitted I was bad and it was my idea to go to the shrink , I would have taken drugs if they helped but my wife was adamant for me not to take the drugs . He is not scared to die . That’s good but it seems to me that he’s cutting happiness out of you both . Hopefully this is only a temperaraly bad patch that won’t persist ? Hang in there baby.. true love can include much pain with this man eating disease …… ❤️❤️❤️🙏
I've been on Lupron for almost ten years now and have not experienced any issues of that nature. I hope you can find a solution soon.
He doesn't get too teary eyed on the movies, but he sits in the dark and listens to adult alternative music channel and all the songs of "angst". He was reading pyshco cybernetics (his favorite book) and power of positive thinking. He's not religious but would read a little of the Bible and pick out positive gems. He's completely stopped that.
I hope he works through his issues soon, cancer does make you depressed but isolating yourself is not good. When you have this socialization of some kind is important, maybe he had some friends that could help him work through it, we tend to push away those closest in major health issues. When my dad had his major stroke he pushed my mom away instead of appreciating what she did for him, it is human nature sometimes. Thank God my oncologist encourages research and socialization of some sort, he told me work gives me purpose. Told him that retirement is a purpose and I have every reason to get up in the morning, we have 4 cats and belong to a club which i am active in. My faith and prayer has helped me get through the down times like 7 days after the infusions when the side effects are not good . I tend to look at the positive, it could be always worse and others are in a much worse position , he is lucky to have someone stand with him.
You are such an inspiration. Thanks for taking the time to share with me.