Wish you to be cancer-free, guys!

[Cat_tiger]

Our family friend, whose wife also has cancer, once told us that you and your relatives go through the following 3 psychological states after diagnosis:

1 - Shock

2 - Depression and fatigue

3 - Acceptance and capacity to act

My father (58) was diagnosed with kidney and prostate cancer this winter. It is definitely a big burden on him. He has had two operations within a month and is now recovering.

During the PCa surgery, ePLND was performed and 3 of the 24 lymph nodes that were removed are cancerous. The RT starts on March 19. So, we are acting now, but I cannot still accept this situation.

Dear bloggers, I sincerely wish you to be free from this stupid disease!

[Tall_Allen]

Please don't feel bound by anyone else's idea of "stages" one goes through. Whatever you feel, whenever you feel it is fine.

[LearnAll]

PCa diagnosis comes like a sudden storm in our lives. It brings uncertainty, anxiety, fear and at times helplessness. Loved ones react to this changed situation with various mixed emotions and confusion as how this could happen to us.

Something which helped me the most during most difficult first 3 months were (1) Reading a lot and knowing as much as possible about this disease (2) lots of walking and dancing on music (excercise) and (3) Deep breathing and Meditation.

Life is back on track and is on cruise control with full daily vigilance about symptoms etc.

First 3 to 6 months are hardest and then most of us adapt to new reality of our life.

[Hidden]

I am 58 just like your father . Comfort and love him much . That’s the best medicine.

[j-o-h-n]

You left out laughter.....

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Friday 02/14/2020 11:52 PM EST

[jfoesq]

Cat- Let’s face it. PC sucks and along with another cancer, it’s even harder to deal with, physically, psychologically and emotionally.

However- please keep in mind, that many of us on the platform have responded well to treatment and are still enjoying life many years after dx. I am one of those and was diagnosed 7+ years ago with metPC and a Gleason 9. Hopefully, your father will respond well to treatment too.