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Brian Metcalf died from prostate cancer last night. Brian and I were friends for around ten years. He was the loveliest of men. He was caring to men with prostate cancer, becoming a support group leader in his local community and online and a most effective advocate for all of us. He loved talking about cricket and history. From any other man, I would have found those conversations boring, but with Bryan, the world...even cricket...was a delight. Brian helped introduce Malecare into the United Kingdom and encouraged many men in Britain to connect with those of us in the USA, in trying to find solutions to our mutual fight against prostate cancer. Brian was a kind and helpful fellow who loved his family and friends. I will miss him deeply and remember him always.

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  • Very, very sad news.

  • I am deeply saddened and heartbroken for Brian, his Family, his Friends and the loss to the earth of such a good human being.

    Most sincere sorrow,

    Jackie

  • Thank you Brian for your generosity of self. May you rest in peace.

  • Brian,

    Thanks for all that you have given to us.

    Joel

  • May he Rest In Peace.

    j-o-h-n Thursday, 10/20/2016 4:19PM EDT

  • Brian, you made a difference. Thank you for your support, your kindness, and your level headedness. You may be gone physically, you will always have a presence here.

    genie

  • Sad news, RIP Brian.

  • Thank you R.I.P

  • I am sorry to hear this . I never knew Brian but I read here daily and try to learn from what people are sharing. I too am struggling with this demon. I only hope that we will all be healthy !

  • Hello Darryl - I am very sorry to hear about Brian. Thank you for letting us know.

  • Very sad. Prayers for rhe family. RIP Brian.

  • Thank you Darryl for your appreciation of Brian's dedication and service to our community.

    I wish to extend my condolences to the bereaved family and his friends.

    I also feel the loss of a fallen hero.

    Darryl, can you please tell us when he was diagnosed for PCa, at what age and a brief pathology of his case with the treatment he received? Surely we could learn something.

    Many thanks for the notice.

    Sisira

  • Bryan entered a brief medical history on Terry Herbert’s Yananow site:

    yananow.org/display_story.p...

  • Thank you Darryl for providing us with the link to access the history of Bryan's case. There is a lot to learn from his story. Great! He has survived almost 20 years since diagnosis. His low PSA level 3.7 prior to RP and the low Gleason score of 6 should have definitely helped him to go that far at a time modern treatment strategies were not practiced in hospitals. Unfortunately, he had had an early relapse.

    By the way I am also a member of the YANANOW Prostate Cancer Support Group founded by the late Terry Herbert and whilst updating my story posted their quite regularly, I also keep on checking the updates of all who have been classified under Gleason 8,9 and 10 ( I am Gleason 9 ).

    Now it adds more to my sorrows to have learned Bryan's connection with YANA.

    Thank you again.

    Sisira

  • Sad to hear another warrior has fallen. I really did not know him but I will bet he helped many, many people.

  • R.I.P. Brian. Now, please keep a watchful eye on the rest of us.

  • He was always there for us no matter what it took, let's be there for his family.

  • Thank you Brian, RIP.

  • Thank you Brian. You brought hope to many. My condolelences to his friends and family.

  • Prayers for the family. RIP Brian. Very sad news.

  • Obviously he will be remembered and missed by many!

  • We'll meet again in that next place my friend 😘

  • So sad to hear of another life lost. My heart goes out to his family.

    Charlean

  • I have also known Brian for many years and am so sorry to hear this sad news. I knew him through PCS North West where we chatted at the Christie lectures. I was introduced to Brian by Mike Lockett, another great man who also gave his all for Prostate cancer cause.

    Colin Stott BPCSG

  • I am sorry to her of Brian Passing.

  • Darryl, thank you for writing & sharing a wonderful obituary of your friend Brian. My deepest condolences to you.

    Neal

  • I only knew Brian through his posts and discussions, but know that he fought a very brave battle, a true warrior. He left us here a legacy of advice and the story of his journey. Now comfort comes knowing that there will be no more pain, no more sorrow. He will be dearly missed. Rest in peace brother Brian, rest in peace. Prayers go out to his friends here and to his family.

  • My first response was tears and I do not know Brian, but you have such beautiful insight into his love of life and all the small things. I picture a man who was not merely a fallen warrior of PCa, but a survivor of all life's twists and turns. Thank you, sweet soul, for the work you've done to help others, to influence the PCa awareness across countries. You knew no boundaries, helped people to connect no matter how far the distance, and now your love ,your story, your life, your spirit know no bounds. Xoxo

    In awe and gratitude,

    Erica

  • Such sad news.