Issue with Getting Fired from Jobs

[ADHDandblue]

Does anyone else have this problem or know anyone who does? How do I overcome this issue? The reasons for firing are not doing work fast enough, making mistakes, another issue is life took my attention away from work, asking for additional help, and reporting maltreatment from a manager. Each time I’ve been fired it was unexpected, and I did not receive any help or support.

I know part of the issue is me experiencing something unjust, or seeing something that is unethical and I cannot let it go. When I ask for additional help and express that I am not getting the training needed or I’m not being treated well people tend to get immediately offended. I’ve been told I call out the b.s., and it makes people uncomfortable. My intention is not to get anyone fired, it’s to solve the issue and become a stronger organization/team. This has never happened, and I always get pushed out so they can continue to operate in a disfunction. I will admit and take responsibility for any wrongdoing I’ve done, but I know in some cases it is not all me.

I am also wondering if I am on the Autistic Spectrum. I have not been tested for this, but I know it’s not normal to be fired as many times as I have

I would love to hear constructive criticism or advice from you all so I can move forward. If anyone has resources or guidance to resources that would be great too. At this point, anything helps. Thank you.

[bcalwaysforever]

that really sucks, I get how you feel with the whole not being trained for shit and being expected to excel. What bullshit. Let me ask you are you/was on on probation when you got fired? There has to be a reason why, if there is an actual disability that you are that diagnosed with, you can’t escalate this ADA as this is a clear violation of discrimination. It sucks being fired, but maybe try to look at on the bright side of things for a company that will better understand how you function at work, don’t feel the need to socialize or suck up to managers, in the end, they need you from the ship while the managers sit on their fucking fat asses googling on Amazon all day. I am sorry that you are going through this, I am still waiting for my disability to come through, it’s been a fucking month, and I just don’t care anymore. why is there no pay disability that is my question, how do they expect us to pay for our bills while we are in a state where we can’t even function in our own lives. I don’t know what you do for career, but find something else that makes you happy.

[ADHDandblue in reply to bcalwaysforever]

A couple times I was on probation. I’ve definitely thought about disability, but it’s extremely hard to prove/get with ADHD. I’ve reach out to gov organizations for help, and I hope this works in the future. I’ve been all over the place with jobs. I think I’m good at being in a helping career, but I still have some doubts there. I guess I just don’t understand how I’m upsetting people so much to the point of causing waves and issues in the workplace. I don’t like being the center of attention of anything. I’d love to go to work each day and be left alone. It’s like once I say one thing, I have a target on my back and I get picked apart for every little thing I do, to the point where I’m not even seen as a person. I’m basically being bullied as a result of speaking up. I just want a normal steady life. Can I still speak with ADA if I didn’t report ADHD to my workplace as a disability? That’s the other issue, there are issues with management knowing you have ADHD and refuse to assist you in succeeding because they don’t want someone in that position with ADHD. They find ways around the law to fire you.

I’m sorry it’s taking awhile to get your diagnosis. I believe mine took about that long too. I hope you get the news you need soon.

[bcalwaysforever in reply to ADHDandblue]

There has to be someone out there that is able to do a diagnosis assessment for ADHD, however, the symptoms of you’re presenting

at the workplace doesn’t seem to align withThis diagnosis. I understand that you have also explore autism, have you ever had a diagnostic assessment for either autism or Asperger‘s? From what I am reading people who are diagnosed with autism attend to enjoy being himself, aren’t able to understand, social cues, and become easily frustrated. I think the best route is to find a

Psychologist who is able to run a battery of Tess, possibly for autism or Asperger‘s, learning disorder, languages disorder, even ADHD. This will be a long process, but as long as you have the paperwork, I think it will benefit you in the long run as, you can provide this info to your company and they are not allowed to discriminate or retaliate against you due to your disabilities as it is Totally illegal. Hope this helps, I’m sorry that you are dealing with this at work. It’s like odd one out.

[ADHDandblue in reply to bcalwaysforever]

I think we have a misunderstanding. I have already been diagnosed and have the paperwork. I haven’t explored Autism. The testing for that is very expensive, and is not done in a battery of tests. The symptoms for ADHD and CPSTD can overlap some with Autism so it is hard to tell where it is coming from. ADHD does align with job loss, as does many other mental health conditions.

[Spud-u-Like1982]

When I read your first paragraph there, I actually thought I'd written it, because it sounded so muh like me. I'm exactly the same with taking too long with the work and once something has distracted me, trying to regain focus is an issue. I've always tended to jump ship before I was fired, but with my last job I'd just given up and went off sick.

It's definitely worth investigating potential Autism, as I never thought I could have it, because I'm empathetic, but turns out the ADHD specialist kept noting autistic quirks and she noticed that from within the first few minutes of meeting me.

When I had the full ADHD assessment I wrote out any traits, experiences or feelings I had that I thought were different, potentially relevant, or unusual. I handed her 19 A4 sheets of information and I don't know how relevant the information was regarding ADHD or Autism or both. I basically wrote out thoughts and feelings I'd never even spoken aloud before. Definitely worth looking in to.

[ADHDandblue in reply to Spud-u-Like1982]

Thank you! It does help to know that we are no alone in this, and that the symptoms of ADHD are real. I’ve taken a few online Autism assessments, and I don’t think that I have it. I do have traits, but those can overlap with ADHD. I may still try to get the official testing for Autism just so I can know for sure.

[ADHDMom2013]

I’m so sorry, that happened to me in my last job. I loved the job too. Got a raise, new job responsibilities and a new desk set (I have a bad back) so it would raiseif I couldn't sit. One day I come in and I was “let go” because I wasn't catching on fast enough. No warning, nothing. I was devastated but I decided to go back to school. Maybe a change would help?

[ADHDandblue in reply to ADHDMom2013]

I’m really sorry this happened. That’s so unfair. Sometimes I can’t tell if it’s just because people are not as patient or even as kind as they used to be in the past, or if it really is ADHD/other mental health conditions. It’s a major crisis when we get fired from a job, and that doesn’t help our mental health at all.

I do want to go back to school, and that is the in plans. I just hope I can get myself in a place where I can go back. The ironic part of this all is that I did change career paths, and I still got let go. I can’t tell if I need to control my emotions better, have a work from home job, or what I need to do in order to survive.

I’ve reached out for assistance from the state, and I really hope this helps me to stabilize myself because I am running out of options. I would love to just go back to school and when I’m finished start over. I don’t think that’s a possibility because I know I’ll have to work and go back to school at the same time. However all of this is supposed to workout, I just hope it does soon so I can have some peace and healing in this area

I really hope you find your true dream job and are surround by kind and patient co-workers that are rooting for you to succeed. That’s all anyone wants in this life, I just don’t understand why it’s so hard for other people to be able to give that type of support.

[Nick1913]

hi

Sorry this has happened to you also. One thing you mentioned was life took your focus away from work. Hence that leads me to believe since your brain was thinking about life, it wasn’t on work. Not being focused on what you’re doing leads to errors. Sometimes we need more breaks to re-focus on our present condition. (Mediation) I think I am doing a math problem. And take a few breaths to re-line my thoughts.

Being tired do to lack of sleep, over stressing are two big issues that cause wondering mind as does boredom.

Enjoying the work you do and wanting to do it are big keys to working well. Having ADD gives me hyper focus which I can utilize on the task at hand, but it also makes me loose all sense of time, so I cheat and set an alarm to snap me out of it.

I learned that a bit to late but hope it helps you.

[ADHDandblue in reply to Nick1913]

Thank you! I will remember this advice. When my mind wasn’t on work, it was because of outside family/relationship issues that I let control me.

I am trying to work on my sleep schedule, continue to eat healthy and incorporate exercise into my schedule too. Maybe this will help with regulating emotions. I think a lot more things need to change than I ever realized. My diagnosis is new, so I am learning more and more how ADHD is definitely a disability. It’s debilitating, and I don’t think a lot of people see that side of ADHD.

I wish life wasn’t this hard. I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining. I just wish people were more kind and saw others as human beings instead of an object that is hired to do work.

I hope things keep getting smoother for you, and thank you for taking the time to write back.

[Nick1913 in reply to ADHDandblue]

Sorry I haven’t been able to sign on as often as I like.

Being newly diagnosed, at least you have an understanding of the why you did things, now you can learn to step back BEFORE you do things, understand the why, can help you change your actions (not reactions).

Journaling also helps.

[Mamamichl]

I have similar issues. What field do you work, how old are you and how much experience do you have?

I work in special education. After 25 years as a teachers aid, I’m finally a special education teacher. It definitely is a bit different. I just lost my first position because of similar things you are mentioning. This is why I ask about mentoring and support in my interviews. I also try to reach out to current employees and ask about the good and bad before accepting a job (if finances allow).

The job market has gotten horrible over the years. No one can keep a job and we are worked so hard d that we get injured and then blamed for our injuries.

Document everything you can with dates. What they say, and get as much in emails or writing as possible of you asking for accommodations and their responses. Contact EEOC if you’re in the United States within n 90 days of most recent discrimination.

Get an ADA through HR. Have a counselor/doctor help you write the accommodations you are requesting on the paperwork. I’ve learned that although I need to change many things, I will be asking for 1-2 things to focus on each meeting, frequent check ins, and a mentor that is NOT my supervisor.

[LisethHIS]

Good day,

Thank you for contacting CHADD National Resource Center on ADHD. I’m truly sorry you’ve had to go through this at work. I can imagine how tough it must be. I’ve found some resources that might offer you support and guidance. chadd.org/for-adults/workpl... chadd.org/adhd-benefits-in-... chadd.org/adhd-news/adhd-ne... chadd.org/adhd-news/adhd-ne... and chadd.org/adhd-weekly/workp...

Hopefully these resources are helpful. Please let me know if there is anything else you need.

Best Regards,

Liseth

Health Information Specialist

CHADD’s National Resource Center on ADHD

chadd.org