What do I do ?

[Tormented555]

Nothing works, and it just keeps getting worse. I try medication, my stupidity always catches up and ends me back in the same place. Notes, reminders, etc, don't work because I can't be consistent. Nothing works, and it just keeps getting worse. What do I do ?

[empleat]

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That must be hell. I know how you feel since it is like someone cutting you sickle to face and chest right? I suffered so much that i hit limit of suffering and i cannot feel more pain even, at least profound one!!! Tho procrastination still hurts like HELL...

Wonder same thing, i am so emotionally flat, anhedonia, severe depression, alexythimia, existential depression, chronic pain, cfs... And like trillion other things... Even trying work 5 minutes is like needles in head like pain and suffering like real torture... I never could do anything that i don't find important/interesting my whole life. But my environement was so inconductive to my development: i am abomination like some creature in locked away in lab...

I cannot even get sleep, because i suffer from insane bedtime procrastination and insomnia and even if i go on time, my mother wakes me when she goes to work... I am literally demented trash, literally i am already brain dead in my 20s... Or radiator making noises in winter, despite we asked 10 times so they clean it...

David Goggins worked for me, but when i had yet shred of hope and only because i was delusional at time from pain... Nowadays i am just completely nothingness, even emptiness is emotion still...

PPL with ADHD need support groups and empathy, pills are shit just for pharmas to make money create more problems then they solve... If you are lonely as me this sucks :/ Even if i find 1 friend that can understand me, he doesn't care about me and talked to me only because he found me interesting... That hurt me a lot... Anyways i am so deep in abyss, i am walking dead i died long time ago anyways...

I hired programmer to make custom to do program because all on market are copies and just to make quick buck instead designed for helping ppl so... I can share it if you want. Helped me a lot! IT is still in development, but it is pretty good has alarms also, snooze etc.

YOu need to satisfy these 3 categories:

1. lizard brain: do something physical that makes you tired like going on bike long time, or adrenaline boxing etc.

2. limbic maintain social connections, help someone

3. intellectual: do some stuff that you need to do especially if you don't want to do them, or try pomodoro or atomic habits

Worst for me is when i have to cooldown recharge, i am unable to relax, for me only relaxation is doing more work LMAO...

Stop caring about working and productivity: youtube.com/watch?v=OBGswoz...(Not working as expected?)

Try also healthygamergg...

It is hard work reward yourself, if you can actually feel anything I have to do everything never feel any pleasure EVER!!! And even if i did a lot of work i never feel a thing...

Read lesswrong articles about productivity/procrastination, or slatestarcodex on reddit for adhd posts

Clean you envrionement from distractions. Try sit with your feelings, learn ADHD meditation (for ADHD)

Thing about ADHD like opponent that has strategy and try to devise counter strategy...

Habits are the key, if you get used to something it stops being painful every time like being cut by chainsaw...

Man i am soooooooo boooooooooooored, there is nothing to do... Life just sucks, everything is pre-determined such a joke...

PS: ADHD is scum, ppl with ADHD suffer more than torture prisoners, doesn't help living in this 9 to 5 society... And no one understands you. Actually no one understands me even from ADHD community... I stand completely alone in whole world. Life is such a joke, just do what you want to do and have fun, that's all i can say...

[Tormented555 in reply to empleat]

Thanks, good suggestions. Sounds like you have your struggles too. My problem is I can't remember anything, I lose everything, I forget everything. It's horrible. Do you read books? I distract myself from my problems by reading books

[JamiHIS Administrator in reply to empleat]

Dear empleat:

Thank you for contacting CHADD's National Resource Center on ADHD. It sounds like you have many strategies that can help your symptoms of ADHD. Understanding yourself and how your ADHD affects you is really important and it sounds like you have done this hard work.

ADHD can be very isolating and it can leave a person feeling that they are alone. The great things about support groups and online communities like this one is that you realize you are not alone, that many people also struggle with some of the same symptoms.

Here is a wonderful webinar that talks about ADHD and perfectionism: chadd.org/webinars/anxiety-...

A lot of adults with ADHD are very bright and hold themselves to a high standard but are disappointed/depressed when they cannot do something or do something but not 100%. The webinar talks about ways to overcome this.

Thank you for contributing to this online community. If you ever feel like you are in crisis, please do reach out the many available agencies that have trained counselors you can talk to.

USA: Free, 24/7 support for people in crisis. Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis. crisistextline.org/ Hotline: 741741

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

Providing 24/7, free and confidential support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress works. samhsa.gov/find-help/988/faqs Hotline: 988

Eligibility: Adult, Teen, Family

UK: Text SHOUT to 85258 in the UK to text with a trained Crisis Volunteer. crisistextline.uk/

Sincerely,

Jami

Health Information Team Manager

CHADD's National Resource Center on ADHD

chadd.org

[Mamamichl]

counseling is helpful. My counselor is looking into things for me, but said this week self care is HUGE. Socializing with friends, doing things you find fun. I went shopping this weekend and I feel better. Sleep, treats (other than eating well), and doing things for you.

[Salah_09]

There is always a solution. I also thought I was a hopeless case but when I started believing in myself, then things started to get better. I am sure you can turn things around and once you do things will only get better.

Few things that helped me (I'm sure there are others which I am forgetting):

- ADHD medication - I am currently on Ritalin

- Therapy - Schema therapy (with therapist) + EMDR (practised and still practise this from time to time myself)

- Spirituality - I am a practising Muslim and this has tremendously helped me to have a connection with an immaterial realm. Once we get sucked into this life and don't look at the possibility that there could and well be something beyond, it causes feeling of hopelessness.

- Journaling - Getting thoughts out from my head from time to time

- Exercise - There is nothing as good as the feeling of sweating yourself and getting your blood flowing.

- Limiting Social Media - The minute I reduced pointless time on screen like scrolling through social media feed, I have noticed reduction in ADHD symptoms such as being forgetful.

- Good Diet - I am currently working on this and struggle but the days I avoid sugary food, my symptoms are considerably less