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Is anyone suffering from Erectile Dysfunction? I've been suffering for a long time and on top of that I have ADHD. IT'S REALLY AFFECTING MY MARRAIGE, to the point we have separated. She says they're are other reasons, but I know otherwise. I've spoke with specialist,and still nothing. My doctor put me on cialis which seems to work, things are a little better. I need to speak with someone that has had this problem. Please HOLLA soon!

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AuDHD3245

Get a testosterone test. Or viagra

It's global common knowledge that testosterone depletes with age, in younger men and older infact. A depletion in testosterone will cause erectile disfunction. I have nothing more to add. It's not ADHD based though, I know that

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Mamamichl

My partner has no trouble getting an erection, but has trouble “getting over the peak” and finishing because he is stuck in his brain with adhd. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone has trouble getting an erection because they can’t turn their brain off or if it is one of the side effects of the medications. I would look into the medication side effects and ponder if you are stuck in your mind and that’s why you’re having trouble. I would also talk to your doctor and have your hormones checked. Not sure how old you are, it there are several times our hormones change in life, and the most common for males happens around the time women would have menopause.

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Nick1913

Hi,

Sorry to hear about your situation, I am curious as to what other things are going on with your body, as well as the communication with your wife.

ED is serious and can be a warning for heart issues? Do you exercise regularly? Are you overweight or diabetic?

What are you turn ons do they match hers?

Sorry if it sounds like I am prying, but these are questions you need to look into and see for your self and you wife..

Good luck.

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Krisans

I am the Non-ADHD spouse. I asked my husband, who has ADHD, if he thought it has effected his erections. He pointed out that when he is hyper focused on anything else it's difficult to get an erection. Also, if he's in the middle of emotional dis-regulation. For example if we had a fight in the early day he may still be dis-regulated by the time we crawl into bed in the evening. He says that having a practice of relaxation over the proceeding days, compartmentalizing the distraction/stressors and having sex in the morning before his mind gets going all have been helpful.

Another thought: if you have a parent / child relationship with your partner that can be a real turnoff and source of contention for both of you which can kill the sexual intimacy.

And, I agree that you should talk with your Doctor. My husband has other stuff going on, low Testosterone and a condition called peyronie's both are treatable. There is also a great book called "The Penis" amazon.com/Penis-Book-Compl....

Thanks for bringing up this sensitive subject. As the spouse, I can tell you that in my marriage, it has been a topic that we HAVE to talk about because, in our marriage, we have both noticed the effect of ADHD in the bedroom.

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GWTWScarlett

Hi, I'm a non-adhd spouse. My husbands is a young 74 and in great shape. He has no problem 'getting it up' but can lose it with ANY minor distraction. I definitely think it's because of his ADHD. Thank God he manages to focus most of the time, but there have been some real disappointments (he goes flaccid) when he's "heard something in another room" or he can't penetrate fast enough.

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NorthWildling

Besides the great responses so far - it can also be if you have also been prescribed an SSRI anti-depressant. They wreck havoc from ED (erectile disfunction) to DE (delayed ejaculation)

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