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Romantic feelings ... sentimental fragility ... are they linked in some way to ADHD in particular? Maybe more to ADD than to ADHD in general ... Same for men and women?

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ADHD is maybe more diffused among artists, therefore also among the singers we listened in our youth. Listening songs then maybe showed us only a face and didn't help us in understanding love and life in the right way at that time, in the way that the main part of persons lives it.

We have a special need for feeling emotions, then when we find a person that could be right for that and for us we dive into it too early or with too much focus.

A relation with another ADHD person could be a continuous fight of struggles and emotions, while a relation with a normotype person could be more stable, but in some way unbalanced, because the strength of feelings could be different.

We understand all this maybe too late in life. We spent too much time in listening songs in our youth ... :)

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Say more, not sure I understand the question.

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I would not know how to explain better ... Maybe you could try to reply in the way you understand it ...

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A symptom of ADD/ ADHD is having BIG emotions. Its very common. We tend to magnify whatever emotion we r feeling- happy, anger, jealousy, sadness, romance, etc

On this site I have heard both men and woman describe magnified emotions. Not sure if there is gender difference. If there is I havent noticed it based on what others share.

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Look up on Google/Bing "Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria" and "Praise sensitive euphoria"

Also, impulsivity and fast-paced relationshipping is common.

Also, look up "ADHD and executive functions" - emotional regulation (both positive and negative) is a well known issue. It's not a diagnostic criteria because it's too hard to define in a clinical way, but it's a well known issue.

Oh ... maybe I do get it: Yes, ADHD is a condition of self-regulation. Yes, people with ADHD have trouble regulating their emotions ... so yes, we might over-attach with someone too soon and so on ... Yes, our system can react in odd ways while we miss out on the information right in front of us.

In other words, yes we can easily get attached to emotions beyond the level which is helpful. So yes, that means nostalgia and so on. I always thought I fell in love with people too soon ... or got confused in what I even thought and felt about other people. And yes ADHD people have higher sensitivity to rejection ... see links below.

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I added a part to the main thread ...

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