Is anyone else have a spouse with ADHD also.

[Ibhappy2]

I am new to this group. I found out I had ADHD a few years ago. It's a mild case . My husband was just diagnosed with ADHD. We have been married for 46 years . It has been a difficult and a very lonely marriage. He always blames me for everything that goes wrong. He is always grumpy and trying to communicate with him is extremely difficult. I have thought about leaving him many times. I am 67 years old, retired and scared about our future together.

[JW621]

Must be difficult

[The1Path]

I’m so very sorry for the sadness and difficulties you’ve had in your marriage. No marriage is perfect of course, but I’ve seen similar issues in my friends & family when both partners suffer from untreated ADHD.

When I was looking for a mate originally, we didn’t know about ADHD.

You are not alone —if you want, there are support groups and therapists who can help you sort out your feelings and get insights into ADHD symptoms.

The more I’ve learned, the easier it’s been to take baby steps toward a healthier and ultimately happier life.

I can only work on myself, not others. But if you act differently, sometimes others will too. <Stepping off my soapbox.>

[wtfadhd]

ugh! thats difficult. what part is scary for ya?

[forgetsalot]

I was just diagnosed at 41 and my husband and I are realizing he probably has it also. I have combined ADHD and we think he has ADHD without hyperactivity. That said people with ADHD have mood issues and emotional disregulation. We both have a hard time regulating emotions but like yours, my husband can be very grumpy. I tell him and he works on it so we want to try medication. Have you talked to your husband about treatment? Meds, therapy, exercise, meditation, diet, sleep, etc? We have to work at it or it will interfere with relationships, career, etc. Sounds like you are doing the work so I hope your husband can see that he needs to get on board. I totally support you taking care of you!!!