Viewing a stranger’s ADHD episode and feeling bad 4 her and realization that I need to work thru my own ADHD issues

[Shnookie]

Hi this Shnookie. I’ve been having ADHD issues of feeling stuck and not doing things That I need to do like looking for employment. In the midst of all this, I was on the way to my car after I purchased my groceries at the market. Right b4 I exited the store, I noticed an unaccompanied

shopping basket with a gorgeous expensive Gucci bag unzipped. I thought OMG 😮

someone can steal this beautiful purse.

B4, I could go to the manager to tell him what was going on, a frazzled woman approach the cart and told me that these kind of things happen to her from time. I felt so bad for her. I don’t know 🤷‍♀️ if she has ADHD but it struck a chord with me. I’ve been out and a number of times have left my ATM card in the machine after the card was processed. Fortunately, I’ve had these

issues incidents including my Starbucks. I just need to be more aware of my surroundings. Thank U 4 letting me vent

Hugs 🤗 S

[VegasB]

Yeah forgetfulness and distractibility perks with ADHD. However, sometimes being able to forget and not hold on to things can be a blessing as well. Luckily you caught that and It happens sometimes. Don’t feel bad because you make mistakes in life that’s why we are humans don’t forget to laugh about them later. 😜

[Shnookie in reply to VegasB]

Thank U for your compassionate text and yes the addition of humor. Humor is so important and I shall not live in the past. Hugs 🤗 Shnookie

[IamMajyk]

What if you don't need to be "More aware" of your surroundings, but need to be more compassionate with yourself and slow down and be with you...in your body...becoming more aware of You in relation to the surroundings.

[Inarticulate in reply to IamMajyk]

Agreed IamMajyk - the forgetfulness is the ADHD and our reaction is us. We deserve kindness and understanding from ourselves!

[IamMajyk in reply to Inarticulate]

Yes...finally took myself off the whipping post because It isn't simple to stop and It isn't because I choose to be this way!!!

Although that's what everyone tells you and makes you feel really great that you're so smart that you can't get your life together. While never actually asking you what you need for help.

Compounded with a flipping society full of distractions, intentionally created to keep us distracted and Self deprecating.

[IamMajyk in reply to Inarticulate]

But as I was writing that play was present to was that maybe what is missing, is our bringing attention to ourselves in our bodies and where we are oriented in the world, in life and in our daily interactions.

What if I stop going faster, trying make up for all the things I didn't finish, and slowed way down and got very focused on what it feels like to be in my physical body...getting present to every move I make, and getting curious about why I want to "get away" from me and the details of my life?

[FindingTheAnswers]

I'm right there with you, except I do this mostly at home. I have at least several (ok, probably 6 to 10) of common items such as reading glasses and I still can misplace them all. Sometimes I'll put something in a 'Safe" place so I'll know where it's at, and, well, you know. It seems to be getting worse? Because of age? I've always been very structured, until the last couple of years because, because...? Because I'm tired of having to be "On Guard". Ready. Prepared. And...? For me structure was survival (long story of family and other dysfunction), as I learned early on that I could not rely on family (because of their ADHD?). I felt... more in control of my life when I was more structured? It wasn't till after my ADHD diagnosis (13 years ago) after reading up on ADHD that structure helps with ADHD. I did it trying to stay out of trouble at home or work. It's exhausting.

[Shnookie in reply to FindingTheAnswers]

I totally understand what U R saying. RecentlyAs I arrived home, I thought after I opened the door to my apt. and put my keys back into my purse as usual. I checked my purse a few hours later, and my keys weren’t there. To make a long story short, I started

looking for my keys. It took me 9

HOURS to find the keys. It was very draining and I felt exhausted. Since then, my keys R either in

A kitchen drawer and I’ve had no problems with this issue.

[FindingTheAnswers in reply to Shnookie]

For what ever it was I was looking for,,,,,, yes, I did look in the refrigerator and other unusual places. I was relieved that I hadn't put whatever in the fridge--but still had to keep looking for it. I was looking for something the last day and a half, and I found it in the trunk of the car. Glad I found it, but unnerved because I don't remember putting it in there.

[Shnookie in reply to FindingTheAnswers]

I understand the feeling. Sometimes I can retrace my steps and find what I was looking for. When it works quickly it’s great. I’m up at almost 4 AM Los Angeles time a splitting headache thank U 4 letting me vent need to get back to sleep. If U don’t mind, let’s continue this conversation

Have a good day. Hugs 🤗 S

[FindingTheAnswers]

Sure.

[Shnookie in reply to FindingTheAnswers]

Sounds good 😎😃