I was let go from a job I loved in late 2018 and have felt a drift in my career but recently (once the pandemic set in) started working as a care aide with older people in my community and I love it... the pay is much much mmmmmuch less than my previous jobs but...
I really don’t want to just work because of money so... we’ve down sized and that means only one car vs 2 and bring more fiscally responsible which I’ve been happy to do because I’m less stressed and noticeably happier... but..(you knew it was coming right lol) I still feel like I’m “not doing enough” and “not being enough” which I know—logically— is stupid but.... I’m still seeking approval from people who aren’t even paying attention like I say—“think they are...”
Logically—
It’s probably linked back to not feeling like I am doing enough/still trying to “make my parents/family proud...” keeping up with the Jones kind of S—Show...But... it’s exhausting.
What about all y’all? Do you ever just feel like you’re on a roller coaster of feels too?? I’m will say I’m def making process though because the “feels” are more happy than anything else...
I haven’t always had the most supportive people around me and it unknowingly took a bigger toll on me than I’d noticed years ago but now.... Damn.
Aaaanyway—
Thank you to everyone who chatted yesterday..
Super cool to get to meet so many new people!!
This post is later than I had hoped it would be but... hey it’s better late than never so...
Yeah how you been today??
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Right ... I relate to the "imposter syndrome" thing. And the sort of vague feeling that if I'm not saving the world, or setting the world on fire, or whatever -- if I'm not doing everything, I'm nothing. You can't do everything, you can only live your own life and contribute your little spoonful of your particular gifts to the world, and find how to receive your little spoonful of what it is you particularly need to stay sane and healthy.
I had a midlife career change, too, and in the 2nd one I made 1/3 of what I earned in the first. And was 3x happier, which as you say, is what matters.
Think of it this way: you may not be bringing in as much, but you are giving more. You are having a real, concrete, face-to-face, loving impact on the old people you serve. Impact is worth more than income!
That is great advice, happyhermit. For sure you have a trailblazing soul! I can see that most of us are empaths. We are sensitive and care. We want to do want to make the world a better place. That is wonderful, however due to so many of life's challenges such as lack the opportunity, maybe love, self-love, recognition to achieve goals that, when we think about it probably takes more that one person to attain? When I look back at mine, whoa mine were way too impossible. I can laugh at that now. You do make a difference. just by giving amazing advice . We are so hard on ourselves. We are human. Perfection hides a lot of hidden darkness. Being how we are is way better, when we understand and have the skills and support to embrace who we are.
Hoo boy! Oh positivepassenger, you are not alone indeed! If we could have felt supported, felt understood, valued we would have felt like we could have wings to fly. The thing is you had them all along. You use those wings for others. We land and take off for others. There comes a time we have to be aware that those wings are for ourselves too. Dang how obvious it is to see that in other but not for ourselves. Our ADHD takes us on emotional and physical flights. In the 19 days since joining I feel like a butterfly who found a garden of beautiful like-minded butterflies. You care so much for others, trust me, the care you are providing enriches the lives of those you tend to as well as your own. You are needed. Bravo for what you do. The fact that we question ourselves proves that we are not frauds. Right now, more than ever, being our true selves is the only way we all can progress and learn that whatever we do does impact others as well as ourselves in a good way. I hope you are and all that are here having a great day and if not hey there are many days out there to have great ones!
This is a wonderful post I’m just now seeing it is sometimes I get a little distracted probably just me though LOL just kidding been super busy with work but I really appreciate your kind loving words how has your Sunday been? Even if we didn’t have the support we needed then we definitely have each other and we had this for now I think that’s why I take the time to post as much as I do or try to post as much as I do in as many places as I can
Dear positivepassenger, I am having my typical disorganized Sunday! Probably that is totally foreign to you or anyone here! Haha! Thank you for asking! I post things not even expecting a reply. I do agree with you on how we can support each other. I am learning that I must take time for myself. That means accepting me and having the right to be me. Ooh that is so hard! I realize that by having ADHD, we see so much in others that we do not see in ourselves. I see amazing, wonderful people such as yourself who have so much to share, wonderful personalities, extrovert and introvert alike. Be kind to yourself, take time for yourself as well, positivepassenger! Whenever you do post you make a Sunday or anyday a wonderful day!
Hi It's Shnookie again. I didn't realize that U R a care aide to the elderly. My last job was as a caregiver to elderly clients with late stage dementia. I loved my last client who I was seeing for over 2 years. However I was getting burned out, my ADHD was getting worse and I was not making enough money. The flip side of the coin. I was also the sole caregiver for my beloved mom who was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in 2014 and died in January of 2016. I need to take a break from this professionally. I am so happy that you have a profession that makes you happy to go to work each day.
Dear Shnookie, You are the first post I read when I signed on over two weeks ago. You reach out and are amazing. I cannot get over how caring and strong you are all the while struggling with ADHD. The hardest part in all of the ADHD struggles is that we have to actually deal with ourselves. You have given exponential care, love, to others and now you are letting yourself take care of YOU. I am at that point and I find it difficult to actually allow myself to take priority in my life. Oh it is hard. You deserve it Shnookie. All of you who read this, deserve to give yourself a break to be you.
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I can see that most of us are empaths. We are sensitive and care. We want to do want to make the world a better place. That is wonderful, however due to so many of life's challenges such as lack the opportunity, maybe love, self-love, recognition to achieve goals that, when we think about it probably takes more that one person to attain? When I look back at mine, whoa mine were way too impossible. I can laugh at that now. You do make a difference. just by giving amazing advice . We are so hard on ourselves. We are human. Perfection hides a lot of hidden darkness. Being how we are is way better, when we understand and have the skills and support to embrace who we are. 
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