How to control your emotions ?

[Favorandlove-23]

How can I control my emotions ?

[johnfamilyman]

Restrain from tongue, text and pen / email. Wait till morning to re-read. I often find my unnecessary emotional reaction. By the next morning I am more relaxed to respectfully respond.

[LM0830 in reply to johnfamilyman]

Is it possible to control an emotion? Or just our response to an emotion?

[johnfamilyman in reply to LM0830]

These words ring true for everyone:

“You are responsible” thoughts, feelings/emotions and actions

[Favorandlove-23 in reply to LM0830]

I meant our emotions.

I just wanted to know how other deal with it.

[Favorandlove-23 in reply to johnfamilyman]

Yes that’s true. I like the way you said it.

Thank you for your replied.

[dgs2018]

I assume that you are referring to when something strikes you a certain way and you react to it - almost out of instinct. That's a tough one. I would say try to refrain from speech or action for a few seconds to buy time. It's not really possible to preset your reactions since

they are inborn. Try to relax overall and not take life so seriously. We all are only human and

will mess up at times. Have a good day.

[GatsbyCat]

Hello, Favorandlove-23

First welcome to the group. Secondly, congratulations on wanting to learn to control emotions.

Emotions themselves are not necessarily controllable. BUT, your reaction, and how you respond to a situation, a remark, or an action, is controllable.

My father had anger "management issues". Basically, he would blow up at anything or anyone he was unhappy with, or when something was not going his way.

As a child, we hopefully learn from what we see, and what we wish to do differently. My partner and I try the count to 10 method, and respectfully speak after we've (mostly I) am calmer. Also, if it is deeply upsetting, you are allowed to take a break, and then come back.

Great job other responders. Just adding a female perspective.

Good luck on your journey.

[Favorandlove-23 in reply to GatsbyCat]

Hi GatsbyCat.

I like your replied and thank you so much for your message.

I find taking time to calm down helps a lot how i react to a situation.

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