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What am I good at?

I’ve been told I’m entertaining.

I need to find the things that I’m good at.

It’s a shame , I lived 37 years of my life and I ont know what I’m good at.

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Is that really true though? Or is it possible that you’ve taken your skills and talents for granted because they come so naturally to you? Or perhaps you are in hopes that there’s only a subset of things you “want” to be good at so you are ignoring all the other things you truly are good at? Or maybe you are envying a few things others are good at and not digging deep enough inside yourself.

I bring up these cases specifically because they plague me quite often. “I want to be good at schmoozing people because so and so is good at that and he’s successful as a result of it” or “well I can’t be good at djing because it’s too easy and I need to feel like I worked hard at something to be good at it” ( even after being told from multiple other djs and club owners that I “have it”)

Do you meditate at all? I feel like the perfect time to reflect on your inner strengths and talents is when you are able to take some internal focus and bring your mind and body back together. Crazy things happen in that state.

I can also tell you that I often enjoy seeing your posts because (at least from text) you always seem to have a caring spirit.

For me, I’ve always been the energy, the positivity, the life of the party that says what’s on my mind even if at first it doesn’t make all that much sense to others. I’m raw and pure and details can (and generally will) be figured out later- I bring the ideas and the will to build them.

What role do you find you normally play in social settings? What’s your personality type? What are skills you’ve learned in life that are rather unique but that the world can use?

Everyone on this earth who’s lived to be 37 has talents. Some are thinkers or energizers like myself (and many other adhders) others are nurturers, some are rationalizes, others are doers (also like a lot of adhders). Many are multiples of these. Have you ever taken a Meyers Briggs test?

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What a brilliant insight. Some helpful thoughts and ideas to get the mind flowing. Thanks for your insight.

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It's hard isn't it? I sometimes say that I'm 57 and still haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up. I spent a lot of time when I was younger trying to keep my options open, and had a fear of getting stuck doing something boring, and a fear of failure, and as a result avoided doing much at all. If I had to give one piece of advice to my younger self it would be : try lots of things. Sometimes I've thought I might be good at something and tried it and it hasn't worked out - that's a really useful piece of information, if I can stop beating myself up for failing at something yet again.

Maybe a better question is - what do you enjoy doing?

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It is hard, especially because I think I am sensitive I have ADHD that was never acknowledged growing up and very emotionally unsupported parents.

Been living on my own since 26 and since then I put most of my focus on trying to fix me

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Wow, this is good too. I have had the same struggles. When were you diagnosed?

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Recently I’ve realized I can’t go though this alone anymore. I never told anyone how I felt. 9 months ago I went though a major life change and I went and got help by seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. My brother also has been here for me emotionally and financially I’m very lucky to have them in my life. And now I’m ready to grow up into becoming the women it it’s never stuck with anything don’t even try because you felt like a failure hard when your whole life you I want to be

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Great questions and I want to reply to each one. I’ll start with the first one. I had skills and talent when I was young, I was very fit, trail ran, rode horses painted and would draw every night for two hours. Gave it all up after high school because I had to get a real job and learn to be like an adult and I didn’t acknowledge all the wonderful things I loved and was good at I only fofouced on what I wasn’t good at

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I am 55 and don’t know what I am good at either. I was diagnosed 3 months ago and I feel like most of my life was wasted because I feel like I was destined to be great and I wasn’t great. I just started seeing a counselor yesterday in an attempt to learn more about this and hoping to still do whatever it is I am supposed to do. I need a direction and feel like maybe if I seek help from professionals that they can help guide me. So maybe for you, start out by looking into counseling or a life coach, and making sure you are on the right medication for you.

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I will bet that you are also outgoing, compassionate, resourceful, and helpful. I am a teacher and all of my ADHD students have had hearts of gold. Every adult with ADHD that I have met is hard on themselves but has the best of intentions. ❤️

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Wow, I believe I really am all of those things, but I struggle every day with living and I really really wished I had a boss that I could look up to and learn from and I wish my job felt more fulfilling. I don’t know or interact with anyone with ADHD and I am always the one who’s different, those where very nice qualities you said and thank for that. I don’t hear positive things being to me and about me. I feel like I don’t fit in with others

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