Had my lowest point yesterday. And social interactions.

[Codebox42]

Honestly I've been very depressed (even on the edge of crying) the past couple of days. And it mostly has to due with my life reflection and college life. As far as college goes, it hasn't been too bad as far as progress or results go, not at all, it's just I've lost almost all interest in a major i'm wanting to do something else and my inferiority complex has risen up because I only have 2 years left only to realize I want a different course of action. And because I feel I'm being in a shadow I shouldn't be in because of these limitations. It's so upsetting every time when the most basic of life tasks are hard to understand due to you not having any experience with it, made all the worse that it's more limiting learning with ADHD. I just feel like the rest of my life will just be wondering what to do and be in the same blank position I'm in. And I have a bit of a habit of thinking too far into things, but thinking so far with the issues I've been dealing scares me and makes me sad. I'm still only 24 years old, and I don't want to go into my 30's or late 20's still addressing these issues. I'd just wish i's realized these while I was still in High School.

I also keep debating on weather or not it's a bad thing to want a normal life or to want to do things people with non disabilities can do easily or very basic. Is it really a selfish thing? There are so many things I'd love to experience or explore, but can't really do.

One of the most frustrating things is when you have a task or specific goal you want to focus on, and have it be something you wanna do, only to just waste the time and days and it continues into a constant cycle. Even having trouble sleeping because you feel using those sleepless hours to do it makes it less wasteful. I find this more difficult when it comes to reading material. It's also harder online to focus on specific tasks simply because the internet itself is a distraction, yet that's where I do most of my work and resources. This is something I've had to fight often lately.

I want to know, social interactions can be one of the worst things to deal with as someone of ADHD. As it limits a lot of social prowess anyone could easily have, so I have a hard time making or keeping friends consistently because I feel more detached from them and their views are one thing, while mine is another. But it's mostly because some people don't understand. It also feels like I'm constantly left out or just not as included as most people, not really out of hate, but rather disconnection, even in groups where I do fit in occasionally. And it feels as if you're alone or can;t contribute much because of limited experience or interaction. Why is that really? Why does it often feel like you don't exist or feel distance because of it?

This also ties into trying to adapt into social interactions. You can completely know or understand something clearly, but act as if you never knew or act as if what was said made no sense or you come off as clueless as to what's happen, why does this happen a lot? I'm asking for as a question of curiousity then anything.

Is it common for ADHD patience to suffer anxiety and feel less that others in the same regard? Or does the situation of it seem to vary? Anybody know any good resources to learn more about ADHD stuff or any sort of Psychology?

[INACIO]

Hi.

Did you convey those feelings to your doctor? ADHD has treatment. Are You Diagnosed With ADHD? If you have the dignitary of tdah, consult your doctor or your psychologist. You may need to adjust or change the medication.

ADHD in adults needs a careful monitoring of the psychiatrist, psychologist, nutritionist, meditation and sport .... It is multidisciplinary treatment.

If you have not been diagnosed with ADHD, seek a psychiatrist with a specialty in ADHD. About your reported feelings, yes this is normal in ADHD. ADHD is a neurological problem...neurotransmitters, dopamine, and noradrenaline (brain chemicals that transmit information between nerve cells) are diminished, making the activity of the prefrontal cortex smaller. It's neurobiological dysfunction.

My advice is to seek medical help whenever you are depressed and hopeless. You'll be fine. It is possible to have a normal and happy life taking ADHD.

Welcome and we will always help with guidelines.

OK?

[Codebox42 in reply to INACIO]

Sure thing. I really appreciate the advise here. And I am doing so. it's just taking time.

[macbeth]

Hi there, remember that this, too, will pass. First, ADHD is NOT a disease. It is NOT an illness. It IS a neurobiological condition shared by millions of people. In college we do not code it as a mental illness. It stands alone just as a learning disability does not qualify as a mental illness. It's difficult to feel alienated from the groups you want to be part of or know what you want to say but have it come out differently. Remember this, you are a unique person. Rather than focus on the traits that make you feel isolated, reflect on your strengths, and I know you have them. Developing a sense of humor about things helps a lot and eases some of the discomfort you feel around people. There are plenty of others sharing your situation. You may even want to start a group or ask a counselor in Student Health Services if s/he would be willing to start a support group for students with ADHD/anxiety. A group of three or four is a good start.

You're not alone. It feels that way, though. Get out in nature. Join a hiking club. Try to manage your self-consciousness enough to listen rather than feel compelled to fill the space with talk. Ask people about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and this buys you time to calm your anxiety and really listen to get out of your own head and observe the behavior of others whom you may admire. Gravitate to people who seem kind and easy-going. You don't need to win over judgmental types who act superior and intolerant of less confident people. There are loads of resources on Amazon and google to find help and chat rooms are great. Mindfulness meditation helps a lot. See if there is a Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) group in your area. Just google it. Neurofeedback is having some success. Also, google it. Be kind to yourself and remind yourself that everyone has a dragon to slay. Smile.

[Codebox42 in reply to macbeth]

I am aware ADHD isn't not a disease or illness, I was referring to how it feels like it is, not that it is one itself. And I really enjoyed your words of support, that is a great idea. Taking walks are a pretty good stress reliever. I will try and check out those resources.

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Anxiety is very common in people with ADHD

[happy_kitty]

One resource i think you would benefit from is a YouTube channel called “How To ADHD” She explains a lot of ADHD related things and give a lot of helpful tips in a way that makes it fun and interesting. She talks about how to deal with distractions, how to organize your life, and explains a lot of the science behind it all. So, if you want to learn more I suggest you check out “How To ADHD” on YouTube.

[Codebox42 in reply to happy_kitty]

I should look into that. That you very much.

[Lovinit]

Psychologytoday.com, Chadd, ADDitude.com. ITunes U how to ADHD and dr. Russell barker. Listing to you talk, reminds me of myself a lot. But I give props, your a lot further alone then I was when I was your age