Childs and Parent safety in danger, physical restraint

[SupportMyKid]

My 9 yr has gotten more fearless when it comes to getting his needs met when dysregulated and I am not succeedingg in supporting him. He took off on his bike for an hr Friday and I couldn't find for an hr. Came home and he continued running for the door, threatening to jump off balcony, swinging a thicker stick at me and things, threw rock at me and he needed to ratrained by me at times. How do I do this safetly

[Mwadhd]

We had similar issues here...used our family and children first council and asked for money for intensive in home therapy...who helped us all figure out what to do and they recommended a Psychiatrist who placed our son on 2mg abilify and that and continued counseling has made him less combative. Good luck to you all.

[bear240]

Hi

Are you getting advice and support from his paediatrician or psychiatrist and/or psychologist or OT? As you would be aware once he has become very dysregulated he is not going to be able to listen to you so it really is about trying to work out what has contributed to it. Being tired is a big one for us but also being overwhelmed with demands. We found books such as Ross Green's The Explosive Child helpful and parent training such as Impact Parents online. There are a number of these programs and CHADD also recommends some. As they get older it's about them learning what helps them and praising when they can do these things.

It's hard and I wish you the best.

[Aspen797]

I am sorry you both are going through this. It sounds as though you both need more support! We have found that when things go wonky behaviorally, one of three things needs to be adjusted—medication, therapy (psych/behavioral as well as speech or OT), or school supports. It can be hard figuring out which needs adjusting or who can help. Is your son’s pediatrician someone you can talk to? You might also reach out to your state’s parent resource center—parentcenterhub.org/find-yo... can offer resources and referral. Tilt parenting is a good online community. You are definitely not alone.

[Mamamichl]

I remember those days with my brother. The safest thing for you would be to tell the police after letting him go and tell him you will call them if need be.

[MatureMomma]

One of our local agencies has a Crisis Intervention Program for families (we are currently on the waitlist). It seems like this level of help would be very appropriate. If you are near the Twin Cities in MN, it’s offered through Washburn Center for Children.