8 year old son w/ADHD confused single mom

[Laurastar]

My son recently was diagnosed with ADHD. Thanks to the teachers and their attempts to help my son, I was able to act. It has been very difficult while we were trying to figure out what to do. My family have been through a lot of trauma. I was never diagnosed with anything because my parents didn't belive I needed help. I suffered and was very obvious I needed help. But I grew up regardless. I am just finding out through my son's life that now is him who is suffering. ADHD and many other things have been in my family from generations untreated. Now that my vision is more clear I feel to have this huge responsibility to be there for my son and advocate and guide him as best as I can. I am not able to comment on many stories I have been reading. But I am grateful that with your stories our journey will be much easier. My main focus is to be the parent that I wanted to have for myself. I don't blame my parents. I forgave them and love them. But now is up to me to fight for my son and somehow fight for me.

[Keegsmommy24]

We have a lot in common! I can relate to so many of the things you reported. I am also a single Mom with an 8 year old son. Thank you for sharing. It is so calming to know that I am not alone.

[Laurastar in reply to Keegsmommy24]

I am also grateful to not be alone and have someone that is able to understand not only what we say but also how we feel during this journey. Thank you!

[Scatter13]

Hi Laurastar, welcome to the club!!! Your post brought tears to my eyes, I don’t have ADHD and I had a hard time not knowing why my daughter was not able to do something or figuring things out but when I finally found out I was so relieved and wasted no time to get her help. One thing I have in common with you is that I definitely wanna be the mom I wish I had and give her all the opportunities she deserves with all my support and LOVE! I wish you the best in your journey and please know that we’re here to support you!!! 😊

[Laurastar in reply to Scatter13]

Thank you so much for your words, support, and the encouragement you give me. It's amazing to see that my worries or concerns are heard. Having support like this has been more than I expected to receive. It's not necessary to share the same issues in life. Only the willingness to listen and have empathy is more than enough. Again thank you for your kind words. I'm not alone! I have suffered for so long trying to understand myself, my mother, and now my kids. My parents grew up in ignorance due to poverty. They didn't had the support they needed. I grew up receiving only what they had to give. I have always been a fighter although many times wanting to give up on life. Thankfully it never happened. I have found that every time I have conquered or healed part of me, it was also for my ancestors and my descendants. As my son heals I too will heal and I know that when my grandkids come, they will receive a father prepared to fight for them. I didn't realize the power us mother have. We are creators of life. A gift that only our Creator saw fit to give us. May we continue to fight and have the vision to truly see what we are dealing with. Il

[PonderingPapa]

I'm very fortunate to share many of the issues that my son has. I understand his feelings and way of thinking and try to help him live better in a neurotypical world. It also lets me see how my behavior affected and continues to affect others.

There is definitely a hereditary factor. I'm hoping that each successive generation is better able to understand and cope with the world around them.