Tips for adult son with ADHD

I have a 28 years son who has ADHD and decided to live abroad. I am worried that I will not be next to him in case something happens with him. Anyone like me ?

[MomO_Sea]

How far away from you does he want to move and why? It is difficult to understand your concerns without understanding the severity of his adhd but it seems that he has ambitions which is always positive.

We feel the same way about our son moving out of state to go to college, but it’s what he’s chosen and we will try to support him. We feel that we are taking a huge chance, but we will have to make adjustments if things don’t go as smoothly as we hope they will.

Best to you and your family. Let us know how it goes!

[Hidden in reply to MomO_Sea]

Thank you very much for giving your input. I don't know how to measure my son s case. But i know that he might forget, lose or misplace keys, money or important documents. He will be able to meet all deadlines. But he is a gentleman and a sweetheart. He has a nice girl friend whom he is joining a road. I am hoping for the best.

[ASLCODATerp]

Is he living with the girlfriend? Can she help him with the things you are concerned about?

[Hidden in reply to ASLCODATerp]

Not yet. They live separately but she is understanding so far.

[123adhd]

I completely understand - but, life’s too short to be caught up in worries. You’ve raised him to be confident enough to move and explore a different part of the world regardless of his struggles. It sounds like you’ve done an excellent job and I think it will be really good opportunity for your son to grow his lifeskis and find ways to cope with his adhd. We all learn through mistakes and find new ways of doing things! I wish him the very best x

[sceller]

As the mother of a 28 year old ADHD son, I can empathize. Here are my suggestions: Make copies of ALL important documents, keys, etc. Perhaps ask his girlfriend to carry an extra set of everything? My son would be able to take care of himself abroad, but I can still see him losing things, forgetting to bring something, etc.!

[LAJ12345]

get into a regular video chat session eg a couple of times a week for a short catch up to see what he is up to so you can gauge his mental health. But dong make it so long it becomes a chore. Eg 10 minutes.

If he goes silent on you make sure you have his girlfriend’s contact so you can follow up with her to see if he is ok.

He might be running away because your anxiety about him is making him anxious.