Where do I start?

[431434]

Sorry in advance for my awkward expression as it is not my first language. But I will try my best to make sense of my situation. I am a mother with 8 year old son. diagnosed with ADHD and Tics last summer. It was hard so broken to see how much he was yelled at / sent to the principal’s office. It was so sad to hear from 8 year old that he wondered why he has lived. I was generally a good student growing up but I was also yelled at in public once by a teacher and it still left me a big shame. It was only about once. but for my 8 year old son it is his daily routine for the last couple of years since he enters the elementary school. We sent him to a behavioural coaching program. We have also received a regular counselling with a social worker which helped us to heal. But I am a little intimidated to send back my son to the same school. However we already moved him to this school at Grade 2. According to him he was physically punished by his former principal whether it was true or not. So we moved to the current school. In his new school he had similar challenges of not participating any school work but sit at the back of the classroom to read or wander around to do his own things all day. He no real friends in his new school and he ended up staying at home for lunch and recess with a teacher’s recommendation until the virtual class started. That somewhat helped him. We applied for IEP. Since the September is approaching, I am quite concerned what to do with his schooling. Should we look for other schools?

[Onthemove1971]

It sounds like you are doing a lot for him.. coaching, maybe IEP. Please consider medication for ADHD. This will help him with the symptoms: impulsive behavior, excessive talking, etc. Most of these stop with good medication, the right dose and taken at the right time of day.

The medication should not change his personality, will help him with negative behavior.

Good luck!

[anirush]

When you have tried everything else it is time to think about medication. I have a 34 year old daughter who was on medication all the way through high school and now has a job in insurance and makes more than I do. Now I have two teenage grandsons who have been on medication since kindergarten. One is in a collegiate program in high school.Kids with ADHD smart are smart. They just have trouble controlling thoughts and actions. We decided back in kindergarten that we don't want the boys in trouble all of the time. It does a number on their self esteem.

An appointment with a psychiatrist and have him evaluated may help a lot.