Behavior trouble at school

[Wanttodorightthing]

My son has got into behavioral trouble at school. He told me if he could figure out why he was doing it he would stop. He was in tears after the last incident. The school is telling me he will get suspended from school next time. I don’t know how to help him. Ideas

[Onthemove1971]

Happy holidays! Sorry this is happening to you guys.

What types of supports are you helping with him now? I think it is important to hear him. This is the impulsivity that is part of the ADHD and they truly don't know how to control things like this.

We are here to help you through this journey.

Big hugs

[Wanttodorightthing in reply to Onthemove1971]

He is in high school currently he is on medication. After discussing with his pediatrician we are increasing dose from 36mg to 54mg. Plan on giving documentation to school to review for 504 plan after holiday. Has us both very stressed. Any other suggestions

[Onthemove1971 in reply to Wanttodorightthing]

The best approach that really helps most children with ADHD is medication ( which it is great you have that already), thearpy ( having someone to discuss things with is really important) and a school plan ( I would do this asap).

I will say that our child saw his Pediatrician and was on a single dose medication and we did not have much success.

For us seeing a psychiatrist and get medication for his impulsivity (Ritilin) and a second medication (Initiv) we really saw a hugh difference. We are also told that the medication he was taking was not the best match for him.

I would also like to recommend you listen to the Podcast "Parenting ADHD", just download a Podcast App. And listen to a number of episodes. The host has a high school freshman.

We are always here to support you..

Hope this helps.. these hard times are now and things will change in the future and hope it gets better. Still love him and support him we things he needs.

[Cjkchamp]

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[skoby]

A wise therapist once told me that “all behaviors are a way to get needs met. Needs are never in conflict.” (Think the need for love, acceptance, connection, belonging etc) the problem is that our kids’ strategies for getting their needs met are often poor. Your son is smart for wanting to get to the root of his issue. I don’t know what the behavior is, but maybe brain storm with him using questions such as “I wonder... if you’re feeling left out of the group?” (Or whatever might be applicable to the situation.) “I wonder” statements are very non- threatening. You could also say what you see happening in his body and help him connect those actions with his feelings. For example, “I see when you talk about this, your hands are in tight fists. I wonder if you’re feeling angry?”

Just some ideas. Hugs to you and your son.

[anirush]

We recently tried to double one of my 15 year old grandson's medications and he got so angry and was acting out. It was scary. I immediately cut back to the old dose. We had changed it because he was having so much trouble concentrating I school.

We are trying something else.

Does he have a 504 or IEP? Is there a school counselor who could talk to him?

That is such a hard age.

[Wanttodorightthing]

I plan on asking for 504 plan after holidays. Have paperwork together. My son is 15 as well. His pediatrician recommended increase dose. Which I plan to start Monday so I can watch him before school starts up again. It is a difficult age. Thanks for response

[mplaz]

Maybe cognitive behavioral therapy? It’s a way to try to understand the thoughts behind emotions and behaviors. Since he’s in high school and seems to want to understand himself better, this may be a good fit for him.

[jhawkfan93]

My son is going though the exact same thing. The school is not at all understanding. We had seen a Neurologist last Spring for another issue and I reached out to her. She suggested an ADHD coach. While similar to cognitive/behavior therapy (that my son is also in ) the ADHD coach helps them set goals and start meeting them. We just got plugged into this and have our introduction session in a week. I did some research on it and I am very hopeful that it will help him figure out how to make changes that will help him as he moves out of high school and I to adulthood.