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[Blessedmamaof3]

So, I have been trying to learn allot about ADHD, being the only one in my house that does not have ADHD I struggle everyday with what can be caused by the ADHD and what is just my kids being defiant. I have a hard time understanding why they all do the things they do or say what they say. I feel like my feelings are hurt on a daily by someone in my home. I have read many books, I have even bought the book ADHD for dummies, read many things online and allot of it is hard to understand, but the podcast is helping when I can hear that they are dealing with some of the same things I deal with. When I found this site the other day I believe that it was God sending me here because he knew I couldn't handle this any longer without having someone to talk to other than just giving one person he gave me a group of people that battle with allot of the same things and feel the same way I do.

[Onthemove1971]

Bleesermamaof3-

Welcome to our world, our journey we will learn so much from your struggle and you from ours and life will become eaiser to deal with.

Big warm hugs!

Enjoy all of the Podcast, they are life changing.

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to Onthemove1971]

I am listening to Penny Williams and she is amazing! I hope to learn as much as I can about it so maybe I can then better understand my family. I feel like I am always the bad person in my house because I don't understand them. Thank you for your kind words sometimes that is all we need to hear.

[Pennywink]

* Hugs * Thank you for sharing that beautiful message.

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to Pennywink]

Thank you! You are welcome and I am learning that ALL PARENTS not just special needs parents need support and there are so many that are quick to judge for the way people parent their children, or for anything. I am learning just because something works for some parents it may not work for another. Trying is a key thing as parents of children with ADHD I think we all understand this and need to know that nobody is going to get this 100 % right and we just need to keep trying even when giving up looks so much easier. Hugs to you as well!

[christieb]

I also started listening to her Podcast yesterday. Learning that I have to reprogram myself on how to deal with my son who has ADHD and ODD.

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to christieb]

She is amazing! I started from the first one and I cant seem to get enough of it. I listen as I make dinner and then I get that oh moment and something new clicks! hugs

[UsuallyStressed]

I too have a hard time not taking it personally. My husband and I ended up in marriage counseling because of it. Luckily our therapist has a husband and children with ADHD as well. She taught me a lot about reframing it in my mind.

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to UsuallyStressed]

At times it is hard not to take it personally. I myself have been in counseling to help deal with the way everyone in my house makes me feel almost daily. I need to feel like I am loved and allot of the time that doesn't happen and I find myself crying because I feel alone and like I am the outcast in my house. When I say how I feel to my husband I am told I am being to harsh and that they aren't like that and I need to learn to deal with them not wanting to be hugged, or affection of any kind as a mom and wife it is very hard to handle that my children don't want to be hugged, cuddled or anything like it. As a wife it just feels like rejection. So I would love to hear more about reframing the mind.