Regular Kid stuff

So a couple of days ago my daughter came to me and said that her best friend (on and off) was running for President of student council and she REALLY wanted to run for vice-president and wouldn't that be amazing if they could do it together and she is DETERMINED to do this. I happen to have been involved to have been involved in student council back in the dark ages and I know it's a huge commitment. Mind you my daughter cannot go to assemblies because of the noise and sensory issues and we are just now going to the cafeteria on occasion with the counselor. They have to be at meetings every Monday, every event sponsored by student council almost every Friday night for events late at night (ok, late for me, like 9) If you miss more than two you are dismissed.

My daughter takes medication at night. She barely lasts until 7:30 before her mania gets to her and she has to take medication. I tried and tried to talk to her about the commitment and all that and she just insisted that she could do it. I tried to tell her that maybe next year she could handle staying up later and regulating her sleep. In the end, I signed the damn paper. Then at school today she went to the counselor and just cried and cried because she realized that she couldn't do it after she forced herself to go to the cafeteria to "test" whether she could go to the assemblies. She lasted about 3 minutes. *sniff*

It's just so hard to let our kiddos experience things and try not to set themselves up to fail and still encourage them and help them believe they can do anything. We do art classes and crafts together and we try really hard, but sometimes the reality is that it's going to put them in a position for more hurt...trying to protect them and still let them experience life is freaking hard.

[5Flyingeagle]

Lots of HUGS

You are not alone

[Onthemove1971]

Thanks for sharing what is happening. I know for our son these are the types of situations that he needs and likes which push him to change without us telling him to do it.

So maybe this in the long run will help becuase she will strive to change... so when something comes up again she will be successful..

I know how hard these struggles are.

My son tried out for a competitive team last year and didn't make it, was offered a pratice spot. So he spent 1 year working so hard and when he tried out he made it..

I know for your daughter it will come maybe just not now..

Super big hugs in getting through this with her. Also so glad you have play time together, not just serious life stuff.

Take care.

[Crunchby]

Ah, so sad for your daughter. Good for her for trying. You're right in think we v have to let them skin their knees. Mine campaigned last year, and absolutely obsessed about her posters. I mean she spent like 24+ hours on them bc she thought that they would help her win. Fact is, she would never get enough votes to win, bc of how she acts. So, yep, she didn't win. She was ok with it, but not sure she'd ever run again.

[anirush]

Good for you for letting her at least try. It's so hard to deal with our kid's disappointments. Even kids without these issues sometimes do not make the cheerleading squad or the debate team. And even though they're really sad at 1st they say all children need to experience disappointment to learn to deal with things in the future.

As we all know life sure isn't perfect.

[Grateful17]

I cheer myself up once in awhile by watching the Susan Boyle audition on YouTube. I love an underdog story. I want someday for our kids to have that chance of recognition and success. I think about you and your daughter all the time. I wish I could win the lotto of wishes and make our kids' lives easier.