Hello parents, I feel like my 12 y.o. son with ADHD is ruining my life. Every day I feel out of sorts because of something he has done. I try to make sense out of the things he does but cannot. Over the weekend, he went outside to urinate in the yard. We have 2 bathrooms that were free. We do not live in a private area so lots of other neighbors could have seen this. He also has gotten into my fingernail polish, pulled stuffing out of his bed and scratched paint off of the walls. This morning he decided to use the bathroom in my kitchen sink because he could not wait for me to come out of the bathroom. He is overweight and steals food after being told not to eat anything else. I have considered putting a lock on the kitchen door.
Most days I feel hatred towards him and I cannot wait to drop him off to camp just to get away from him. When it is time to pick him up I feel dreadful. I have tried taking things away, canceling fun events, punishment and spankings. None of these consequences work. I am totally exhausted and at my wits end and do not know what to do about his odd behaviors.