It takes a village to raise our children

[sakinahabdullah]

Good morning I'm the legal guardian of my grandchildren the oldest one has been diagnosed with ADHD and DDC our situation is out of control and I don't know what to do I feel like I'm losing her she has been on medication and refused to take it she stopped seeing her counselor and the psychiatrist I feel lost I would love to talk to other parents join a support group and find help above all for my grandbaby

[Onthemove1971]

So sorry... not sure how old she is.. but could you find a mentor at school/ summer program to "mentor" her. Big brother big sister program?

Could you find find what she likes and use that? The medication really is the answer, I know it is very frustrating but try 1 day at a time and make a deal. If you take it you will earn xxx. See you you can start that way. Make the reward big.

Good luck

[anirush]

Yes her age would help. My grandkids are pretty good about taking their medicine but I have had to use bribes in the past or take things away, or give money at the end of the week if they take it every morning .

They also go to a behavior counselor and really like her. But you have to have a good rapport for them to want to go

[Bedalu]

Hi ,Good M!First of all I give you a lot credit for taking care your Grandchildren,this is amazing ! But let me ask you something,how old is your granddaughter?? My son was diagnosed with ADHD,when he was 6 years old ,let me tell you ,what a Jorney!If you think you are loosing her ,you have to step up ,and be firm .Sometimes instead of punishing her ,tried to reward the good things she do it !Adhd kids,respond very good when we do that ,also you can talk to the Doctor, and here in Connecticut ,they have a special programam call 'IICapps',the Therapist come to your house and they work with the kid and with the Family for a period of 6 months ,is really good!My son now is 13 years old ,he just finished Middle School and are going to High School,some days are so hard ,but we have to keep on going ,there is always Hope,and look at that , you raising your Grandchildren ,Uau👏👏👏.You can do this ,Good Lucky!!I

[LynnM9090 in reply to Bedalu]

I also have my grandson who is age 14 he did well on adderall until recently and we found out he was putting it down the sink. We have tried positive and negative reinforcement but all he really cares about is playing video game- we had to start a chart at school for every 4 stars he gets he can play his game that evening. The problem is he's going into high school and the teachers will not continue to do this. He just started taking Guanfacine hopefully this helps it is a constant struggle!