In desperate need of advice or help!

[AMH2010]

Hi! I'm married with 4 kids. My family and marriage is struggling. My son is 7, has been diagnosed with ADHD and O.D.D. I had to quit my job 3 years ago , were struggling financially as well. I'm not sure what part I'm not understanding. He started school late due to his birthday . They wanted to hold him back in kindergarten, I refuse. Now also wanting to hold him back in 1st. I feel like I'm loosing everything.

[Trpwife07]

Does he get extra help at school? Does he have a 504 plan? My 6 year old does amazing at school so I can't give any true advise other then requesting help for him. Have you ever thought of homeschooling? I would love to homeschool but my son does so well at school ( both academically and behaviorally) that it's just not a good idea, at this point at least. Totally get the family falling apart. We were in the same boat about 6 months ago. We finally made the decision to medicate and what a difference it's made. It's still not perfect but between the meds and behavioral management therapy I feel like there's hope again.

[AngelamarieQ]

His executive functions are 3 years behind and that might be one of the reasons the school wants him to repeat a grade. Is he in the 504 plan?

[Natyeins1]

Hi my son repeated 2nd grade and now he’s doing good, he even got honor roll twice. I was scare to but for me is was the best option. Don’t be afraid, I know is very hard for us as parents with ADHD kids, but take it one day at the time. Forget about everything else and try to make sure your son is happy and confident, the rest will fall into order.

Good luck

[MomOfAMermaid]

A favorite writer of mine says when things are falling apart, they are actually falling together. We tried everything but meds for over a year. My daughter was forming a negative view of herself, she was miserable and we were close to being miserable. Meds have given her the opportunity to experience her abilities and participate in activities after school. Before meds she was DONE at noon - unless she tool a long nap, she was unable to experience success after lunch. She was 6 when we started meds and I agree, with tools from therapy or a support group, life can fall together nicely. I with you all the best!

[Cjkchamp]

My heart goes out to you. My son has ADHD with ODD behavior. No formal ODD diagnosis. We have had a number of incidents at school over the years. Each time something happens it sends me spinning. My husband and I are not on the same page with discipline or medications. I have been doing the nurtured heart approach which seems to help. You can look into it online or look at the books on Amazon. At the psychiatrists recommendation I also started 400 mg of magnesium glycinate. I feel for you. I know it sucks. It’s nothing that is going away and it affects every area of your life. I wish you the best!