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My son with ADHD

I have a son his 13 years old and I love him so much he has adhd and the schools don’t seem to understand him they give up on him My son has a lot of energy can’t focus he gives up because he don’t understand his school work I don’t really know how to understand what is going on with him and I want to understand the battle he feels because I will help him anyway I can so I’m here looking for ways that I can help him without meds seems like every time we go speak to a dr. They are quick to write meds but is there another way to help our children without these meds that can cause more harm in the long run then getting educated and really helping him he was on meds but he changed so quick he would sit in the same chair all day not speak and pale that really scared me so I stopped the meds but I just want to help my son so I’m asking for help understanding my sons condition thanks

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I'm in the same boat, unfortunately schools just lack knowledge & experience when it comes to ADHD. They think a pill is the "cure" its just a piece to the puzzle. There's no empathy at all! I wish there was something. I wish you guys luck & God bless.

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Hai

I too am experiencing the same. My son is 13 yr old with ADHD. Have tried medication it keeps him sedative and liss f appetite. I have stopped t and. giving homeo medicines which jas no side effetcs and, also showing some improvements.

As of academics yes he strugges a lot and CBSE s a torture for theseand.kind f kids.

After long depression and struggle God has shown us a path. If u have heard abtof NIOS I am not sure, it s an open.school suitable forfor slow learners. Curriculum.wd be simple and subjects r optional.But t s only for class 10 and above. Now I have come to know that OBE s same as NIOS but for lower classes.It has levels and then class 8,10&12.

Search in.the net for further.details regarding this and.find out the.nearest centre.in ur area.

Don't aim.too high abt the future of our kids but help them survive is what we can do.

Pray for all the kids and only God can do.wonders

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I can certainly empathize with your situation, but I would advise getting some reliable information about ADHD. It is a neurological disorder, which means that medication is the only way to really help your son. This is not to say that behavioral interventions, therapy, etc. will not also help, but medication is the primary intervention with this disorder. There are number of different types of ADHD meds on the market now, and you need to do your research on all of them. Discuss them with your pediatrician and then start trying them. You may have to try 2-3 different meds, with varying doses. And ADHD kids often change medications frequently over the years. An example of this: my son started on Concerta when he was nine, but by the time he turned 12, we realized that Adderall worked better for him. After the Adderall, he took Vyvanse for many years. Stimulant medications can be taken safely and the side-effects can be managed. Please do your research and find a medication that works for your son.

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amen you are soooo right. i have friends that say "youre not scared of the meds"? i too have had to do trial and error with meds. as a parent you will know when its not as effective as it once was. you have to have a doctor who listens. you have to research options and their functions. my son has been on meds since age 4. our kids deserve a focused life.

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I totally understand where you’re coming from. It’s hard to watch our babies struggle in school and life. The first thing you need to do is have an evaluation done by a licensed psychologist or doctor. Once you have a formal diagnosis you and your son are entitled to services through your school system. He will receive an IEP (Individual Education Plan) which will map out special services he will qualify for. Once those services are in place the school can’t just “give up on him”. He is protected by the Americans with Disabilities Act, and is entitled to a free and appropriate education.

I have to agree with Seller about the use of medication: just like other emotional disorders, ADHD is a neurological disease, and medication is often the best choice. Homeopathic and behavior therapies can help, but if those have been tried and haven’t worked, traditional medication might. Everyone is different, and what works for one might not work for you. You wouldn’t withhold medication for diabetes or high blood pressure, and ADHD is a disease just like those conditions; it just happens to be in the brain. Good luck.

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I am have the same trouble my 8 year old is make all F in school and they say they are nothing more they can do to help him

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if the meds made your son "zombie like" maybe try lowering the dosage as opposed to stopping it completely. meds help their brain slow down and process information as well as think their decisions through rather than be impulsive. its important to not fall behind in school brcause that can be overwhelming as well which leads to frustration and giving up

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I thank everyone for the great advice my son has been through so much by teachers calling him stupid by schools giving up on him kids making him feel like an outsider because he doesn’t understand the work given in class so he acts out by messing around so that he can get out of doing the school work because he doesn’t understand it he has a lot of anxiety he has me tell every single teacher that his not at the grade level that they want him to be In i cry it hurts me I wish I can make him better his my child when his hurting I’m hurting I just wish that teachers were more educated on adhd so they can help our children not make them feel worst .

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