Mommy friends

[JenD94]

Anyone live in NJ? I want mom friends that won’t judge my hyperactive daughter and can help be supportive of me trying to navigate this new chapter of our lives

[krdickinson]

I’m in the same boat, but I’m located in Omaha, Ne. I’m trying to connect with my local CHADD chapter (national resource center for ADHD) - chadd.org

Might check out their site to see if you have a chapter in your area or even with your pediatrician to see if they can direct you to any resources or support groups

[ScatteredMom]

I messaged you.

[Iamkishajmcrae]

Hi sweetie I'm not in NJ but the Bronx NY. I can feel your urgency and frustration in my spirit.. It gave me chills. My son was diagnosed at age 7 but he 18 now in college and working part-time

So know that your daughter can be an asset to society one day. Get rid of negative beliefs about everything. Its time you as mom do her due diligence. Before you can do anything you gotta get a grip on your own emotions. I'm about standing in that gap between mom and her adhder. However I live to empower mom's 2 practice self care on themselves first. You cannot Advocate effectively for your daughter if your emotions are being fueled by all of the myths that you are hearing around the way. ADHD is not an excuse it's an explanation. So I need for you as the mom and the caregiver is 2 get in a place of peace and try to take deep breaths in and out. You may have to do this once your daughter goes to sleep however you will need to take care of you first this is crucial to your daughter growing up and being that asset of society.

Your daughters hyperactivity you know is definitely do to her ADHD diagnosis however they could read some of the underlying conditions that are not being treated that needs to be addressed. I want you to know that I am on your side because I was once where you are at and it is not a healthy nor is it a good feeling as a parent

You probably a going through that syndrome where other parents are trying to tell you how to raise your child or how not to raise her. Come on now let's look at this I can definitely judge by your first response regarding to please do not judge your daughter and so forth so if any parent has said anything to you about your child who has ADHD and they are not raising an ADHD child themselves, tell them to take several seats in a very nice way however let them know your child is not average she is unique so therefore there's a different method of discipline and raising her then the next child.

What I can't begin to tell you to do is make sure that you are very very in close contact with her pediatrician if she was diagnosed I'm sure there should be a psychiatrist or someone of that sort involved if she was taking medication before. If she was never on medication I want you to do your due diligence of your own research clinically research Google it about medications for ADHD.

Understand that if your child is very hyperactive you need to know that she herself is really struggling with something so she may need some type of therapy wish you could talk to someone or someone who is trained in order to navigate what's going on with her and help her to overcome it and or her to see a psychiatrist to better understand what type of medications should you decide to go that route would be conducive to your child current behavior. You definitely without question and judgment have a friend in New York that can be as supportive as you would need me to be because I do have 16 plus years experience with ADHD and raising an ADHD who is now thriving however about 2 years ago or maybe a year-and-a-half ago I was also diagnosed with ADHD. So I have the eyes and the lens to look at an ADHD child from the inside out and know exactly what they are feeling and I think in that that is the best of the best advice from someone that you can get based on their experience however, any medication or therapy type advice or suggestions those are all and would be or so based on experience and I do urge you to do your own due diligence before listening to anyone in regards to any medications any medications that suggested for your daughter you should very well make sure you research it before you start her on it. Make sure that should you decide to choose medication as a route of treatment know that with medication she would also need and will also benefit from therapy with a with a train clinical experienced therapist. From experience I will tell you that medication along with therapy is very effective your daughter is very hyperactive so the medication that will most likely be a suggestion will be something that will calm her down and she just needs to be calm down enough so she can actually learn because I'm sure in school her behavior issues are the fact that she won't sit down she won't stay in her seat or you know overall just hyper.

When the teachers explain things to you, ask them questions like to tell you more. They say she's very hyper you need to know the exact things that she is doing if they say she's hyper. Ask them why do you say she's hyper. what specific behaviors is she distributing for them to say she is hyper.

I want you to know that I hear you and I want you to hear my own heartbeat. My heart goes out to you because I was there I was frustrated and a weary

mom raising a child with ADHD that nobody really understood and neither did I. At the time I was married, so the husband himself was in denial so I really didn't have the support that I needed in the household.

If your daughter was already diagnosed with ADHD I want to know, you're in New Jersey so I'm sure they have IEPs individualized education plans for the children. does your child have an IEP that's something you definitely need to think about if she doesn't if she does have an IEP..

you supposed to have a copy of it so you may need to go over it after you speak to the teachers and get specific information in reference to your daughter's Behavior, then you might have to look at the IEP and have it revised.

As being a mom who have raised a child with ADHD and having ADHD herself I do understand oh my God what you are going through so I want to say to you to make sure that you are mentally spiritually and emotionally caring for yourself. you need to be fully equipped and ready to fight an advocate for your child but you can't do that for your daughter if you're frustrated and or come busted and disgusted. So the support that you may be looking for can be offline but more than likely you will find more help from virtual groups on Facebook so you can you can actually search support for moms raising ADHD children or something like that. I'm actually think about creating a group myself on Facebook because of my expertise and the experience around raising a child with ADHD but my specialty lies with more or less understanding having a mom's understand that they are big big huge part of their child's progress.

Mom here to understand that taking care of themselves and their mindset and enduring self compassion for themselves will be the ammunition that they need in order to bind with the children and or become compassionate towards them period with compassion you understand more about what it can feel like being in your child shoes so once again this is also going to come with knowledge, research and the young lady mentioned Chadd.You can actually try and Google Chadd and see like she said is there is a chapter in your neighborhood. And guess what if there is not a chapter in your neighborhood you may be able to find out from Chad how can you yourself begin your own support group with moms that are raising ADHDERS. well I could go on and on and on with advice and share my experiences and different things that I have learned however you can and gave him anymore on Facebook and I'm under coach Kisha Johnson. Remember I am not a psychologist mental health counselor anything in the medical field I just go by my heart I go by Mike 1716 + years of experience the fact that I also have ADHD have been diagnosed with ADHD I am able to share the suggestions and advice that I gave you based on what I personally know but not to be clinically proven unless I have already done my research on a certain subject all on its own.

so my dear I'm going to end this and I pray again that things work out for you but just know that nothing that your child is going through nor is the way your child was birthed your fault. We cannot help that we birthed unique children that's all they are. They are very unique so we just need there environment an foundation and 'people in their circle to understand who they are. Boom!!! God bless you and baby girl.

[seller]

Check with your local school district and see if they have CHADD meetings.

[JenD94 in reply to seller]

There isn’t one near me