My 7 year old is having issue at school with behavior.

Hello, I’m new here. My son is turning 7 in 2 months. He is having trouble at school with keeping his hands to himself and staying focused on his work. He had iss for 3 days last week because he hit another kid that was in his face. Also, in kindergarten last year he had been sent home a few times for crying because he didn’t want to put what he was doing away to move onto something else. He was also kicked out of school for 3 days in kindergarten because he slapped another student that was annoying him. He is disciplined at home for his actions and I take things away from him as well. I’ve tried positive reinforcement for good behavior that works sometimes but not all the time. He’s a smart kid but I’m afraid that since he’s starting to lose focus that it might affect him academically. He even forgets things like flushing the toilet at times which is frustrating because I’ve told him a thousand time to flush it. We’ve seen a psychologist and he said he does have some attention issues based off the computer test he did in his office and I had his teacher fill out a form about his behavior. Should hear back from him soon. I’d like to try and keep him off medication but if it’s absolutley necessary then we may try it. Any suggestions on what to do would be appreciated.

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  • I struggled with the idea of putting my 7 year old (now 8) on meds, but I I even cried about it. But I can say so far so good. He has started off the 2nd grade way better than he did the 1st. I used to phone calls and notes home all the time. But as soon as he started on meds things changed so much for the better. He has started out the 2nd grade thriving and striving, no phone calls home or notes about his behavior or lack of focus. I still struggle with the meds but I try to ask as many questions as possible and research as much as possible. Good luck

  • I’m even thinking about changing his diet. Which will be really hard but it’s worth it if it helps too. Thanks for your input, I’m glad he’s doing better! I’ll definitely be looking into it as an option for sure.

  • I have a friend whose some was acting out like this, he sounds frustrated. This can definately happen with ADHD but also can happen with kids who aren't being pushed in school to their potential. My friend was a huge fan of essential oils to keep her son calm. And they worked for some time, as he got older she needed to introduce meds but was quite successful in keeping him off of them. There are vitamins too. I know she spoke with a holistic doctor and they recommended items eith magnesium. They also sell some items in vitamin shops called something like calm kids. Anything natural is worth a shot and can't harm him. You can try while you wait for the results to see if natural is a good option for you and if not there is no shame in using medication.

  • He is taking vitamins called Focus that’s from our natural foods store here and he’s been taking New vitamins with omega 3s and has been taking it for over a month now. I just hoped that it would work a little better than it has for us. I’ve also thought about him being bored at school too but they don’t seem to think that’s the case at his school.

  • I disagree about the natural stuff can't hurt him. I took an over the counter herb one time and had a horrible reaction to it.

    I know no one likes to do medication. But imagine what constantly being in trouble and getting kicked out of classes does to his self-esteem. If he is being aggressive with the other kids he's going to have trouble having friends to. My youngest grandson had that problem when he was unstable.

  • My daughter Gia isn't on meds yet either but we have our first apt in Dec. I was once told if she had diabetes would you not give her insulin, if she had lyme (which her sister has) would you not give her antibiotics, if she had any other illness would you not give her what makes her feel better They also said AHDH is not a sympathy receiving illness its frustrating. Learn all you can on how he must feel, his executive functioning, and lack of self control.

  • Write a letter addressed to his teacher, principal and school psychologist if there is one on-campus requesting an assessment. Although schools do not officially diagnose, the assessment will likely indicate ADHD. Your son is a candidate for protection under an 504 Plan or an IEP. It sounds to me like he might require a behavior intervention plan at school. You will never change behavior through traditional discipline or reminders. Look for parent education classes on how to parent a child with ADHD; CHADD, ImpactADHD, universities, SELPAs offer such. Medication, behavior therapy, parent education and social skills training is a well rounded treatment plan. Medication is life changing for my son, however, without behavior therapy and a BIP at school he'd have made no where near the progress. Hang in there.

  • Jjs2015

    I would put him on meds but talk to your Pediatrician. Sounds like he needs to be evaluated for an IEP at school which will provide a Behavior Specialist, OT, etc. This helped my son.

    Hope That Helps

  • My son was the exact same way. I got constant phone calls from day 1 and notes home everyday about him not liking transitioning and how he would be aggressive with the kids and the teachers, he would always be removed from the class which meant that he wasn't doing his work and falling behind. The school did evaluations and we noticed that he has a hard time expressing his emotions and needs intervention with communication skills and behavioral as well. He was moved to an ESE class mainly because we wanted to try and see how he would do in a smaller setting and he's been there 2 weeks now and is doing amazing. He is also on meds (Ritalin 10mg 2×/day). He has stopped hitting kids, he listens, is able to sit and do his work...he is a different kid and he's doing great. He went from a classroom of 22 kids to a classroom with only 8. You have to work with the school, the guidance counselor, the school phycologist, the teacher..all as a group and see what will work best for him.

  • Did your kiddo have any weird side effects to the medication when he started?

  • None at all, thankfully. His sleep is the same along with his appetite.

  • Yes some but manageable.

  • That’s awesome! My son sleeps and eats really good now so hopefully if we do the medication route it won’t affect his either. Thanks for your advice!

  • work closely with the doctor to ensure the dosing is right. there are several types available and if it will help witb the impulsiveness then its worth a try. you dont want your son to have a bad reputation at school. as he gets older you want him to be able to focus on his work as well. good luck

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