My 4.5 year old daughter was just Diagnosed this week with ADHD. The Main issues we have with her is defiance( Never listens to us) , and anger ( she gets angry very easily ) . Yelling/Punishing doesn't do much but get everyone more upset. Any Suggestions ? Also , does anyone have any short term behavior charts they can recommend ? She gets a Smiley face on the board when she does something really nice , but I think we need something more short term ( maybe morning /evening ) etc.