How a Positive Mindset Versus Negative Mindset Impacts You

[MidoriVerity]

Hi, I'm new here! Looking forward to being an active part of this community.

I'm a super geek when it comes to mindset, so thought I'd share this graph and post with you.

I created The Positive Mindset vs. Negative Mindset graph below to illustrate a few results one can expect from opposing ways of thinking. Those who have a positive mentality are more optimistic, resilient, and more successful.

If you favor a pessimistic mindset it’s usually a trait created from your youth. It’s designed to protect you from embarrassment, shame, and contempt. It’s very common and I’m happy to tell you, you can adopt a healthier mindset.

I had a client who’s wife sent him to me. She was exhausted from his constant negativity. He never wanted to go out because it was too costly. He complained about his career but wouldn’t quit because he was fearful he couldn’t find a better job. She wanted them to go hiking - he was worried he’d hurt his knee. BUT he wanted to be happier!

Once he committed to changing his beliefs he said to me, “Midori, I feel like a dark, heavy blanket has been lifted off me. I now notice the beauty around me and how lucky I actually am.” He saved his marriage.

The amazing thing about our mindset is we have the control to change it. If you have negative self-talk or limiting beliefs you CAN replace them. Once you pivot to a more optimistic way of thinking you’ll notice less frustration, better results, and an overall happier outlook on life.

[Hb2003]

Thanks for this 😊

[MidoriVerity in reply to Hb2003]

So glad it's helpful!

[FearIsALiar]

Very helpful !

[MidoriVerity in reply to FearIsALiar]

I appreciate your feedback!

[FearIsALiar]

Welcome to the group

[MidoriVerity in reply to FearIsALiar]

Thank you! Happy to contribute and meet more members.

[FearIsALiar in reply to MidoriVerity]

They have other groups on here as well. I am apart of the anxiety / depression group and some others

[FearIsALiar in reply to FearIsALiar]

I think that is most popular

[MidoriVerity in reply to FearIsALiar]

Interesting because so many of my new clients are coming to be with those issues. The current state of the world is not helping and people need more support than ever...unfortunately.

[MidoriVerity]

Since there seems to be interest in this topic I thought you may gain value from this post. Title: Fun & Effective Tip to Increase Positivity Today.

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P.S. - I know this is a male's group and I'm sending you to a women's group, BUT this is a non-gender post. I promise!

[Cleaningthehouse]

The question from me is how did you get him to accept his behavior and want to change?

[MidoriVerity in reply to Cleaningthehouse]

Good question! It depends on if he sees it as a problem. I recommend starting by having a conversation, that is non-accusatory. Approach the discussion from a positive, non-confrontational angle.

You can use this article as the convo starter. Try saying something like, "hey, I found an interesting article about mindset. Let me read it to you." Then, have a discussion focused on the article – NOT on his negative behavior.

Talk about others you know with a positive or negative way of thinking. Most importantly, talk about how you respect the positive person and see how it affects their success. Of course, discuss the other person and how he/she makes you feel.

Get his feedback and see where the convo goes. Often, the other person will reflect, realizing their shortcomings, without you having to point it out.

You may consider taking the DISC behavioral assessment together. It's a fantastic tool for uncovering personality styles and the behavior the world sees. DISC is very scientific and the clarity it provides can be life altering.

Good luck!

[Cleaningthehouse in reply to MidoriVerity]

I am truly appreciated for your reply and thoughts. I am out of my element here. My son is resting and I will take advantage of the time and read the article.

Thank you, thank you.