Problem 1

[Maybetomorrow]

I have grown up in a broken family. Where all I can remember is my mum and dad fight. I was young but yet I prayed for them to divorce. It affected my life. I wish I had a family like all my friends had. To think of it we do not even have a family picture. Our dining table was just there for decoration as it was never pleasant to sit and dine together. My parents would insult each other in our presence. Instead of lullabies I had their screams every night and my nightmares were working up to their fights and banging of doors. I was torn in between who to please as they used us to hurt the other. I was only a child but yet I knew it was wrong. Things got worse even after the divorce as they started pointing at each others misfortune. Used us to hurt the other. I had no one to talk to. This kept on going. I became independent at a young age. I just wanted to get away from everything. My parents loved me but honestly I felt something missing. I jave a toxic relationship with my mum because sometimes she does things that so long as she benefits, she does not really care much of our wellbeing. I started looking for love in other people but that did not go well. This ended up affecting my relationship life. Never had anyone to prove to me that there is hope in love. I got used, dumped, just not working out. Heartbreak after heartbreak. To the point I told myself I am the problem. I still feel I I was born out of a mistake and everyone sees me that way. This is just one part of my life

[kenster1]

hi I am sorry to read of your upbringing and how it has effected you in later life.i had similar experiences always when my dad had a drink I had brothers and a sister for some support though to help.round about 14/15 I would react back at my dad for things he would say or do meaning we had a bit of a toxic relationship for years after.i found relationships hard to stick with until I met my current partner but at times that's even a struggle.sometimes we can learn from our parents mistakes though and help us when we grew up.dont look at yourself as the problem its really not you sometimes relationships just don't work.you might not love everything your mum does but we all make mistakes some we can learn from.all the best to you.

[Theonewhocares]

It's hard to be in that situation. I know it's easier said than done but sometimes you have to be the better person in all this. The first thing that you have to realize is that no one here on earth is born a mistake. We are here for a reason and even though many go through difficult moments in their life that doesn't mean we don't learn from them and may even help someone going through a tough time. Don't compare your friend's families to yours because of every family no matter how good it might seem like their own issues. The first thing I would do is check professional help( like counseling) to help you heal from any wounds you might have. Second I would hold off on dating because since you're looking for that love that you aren't getting from mom or dad and you get it from someone else you will end up getting used more and that's not what we want. Try to fix things within yourself first before dating. You might feel lonely but once you are healing and ready than you will see that it was worth the wait. Lately, I am a Christian woman so I have to have Jesus in here. If you don't know about him and would like to know about him I suggest you download the Bible app to know more about him and you will discover his love. You don't have to I am just mentioning it because i am a Christian. Don't get bum out and keep the faith and believe better things will come to happen.

[LaPetiteGen]

Oh love, please don't believe you are a mistake! The choices and mistakes of your parents don't have to influence and define your life. All of us make mistakes and all of us have scars. The key is not repeating the past and not living a life of shame. My childhood has many similarities to yours and I still struggle with my relationship with my mother and I'm almost 50 years old. However, I'm pleased to say that I decided a long time ago that I would overcome my past and make decisions that are best for me- even if my family disagreed. It's about forgiving yourself, believing the best and making positive choices. You don't have to allow toxic relationships into your life, you don't have to accept less and you don't have to repeat the past. Praying you find your way and that you know you are worthy of love. You were created for a purpose and the God of the universe madly adores you!