What to do......

[anniebooty]

From my doctor to my psychologist talk to people tell them how you feel etc etc and talk more. You try too but at the same time it's still hard to talk and to open up like just a minute ago I ring the sister numerous of times but no answer. When I finally get through I get a cold reception I mean what can I say to that ??? Yes at times when I ring I need something I also at times don't need anything.

That is one of the reason why at times I don't like to talk especially if it's to do with my mental health. Normally why I don't like to talk is 1-I don't want to be seen I can't cope 2-I don't want to be seen like a freek 3-I don't want people to see that I'm weak 4-I don't want to seen like I'm going on at people 😕😕😕😡😡😡

[oddday]

I know exactly what you mean! This is where the medical/mental health service is useless. They assume friends and relatives can and want to listen. What they dont realise is that our well meaning family circle are nit equipped with these skills, or that you have been told to do this by the profession. As a carer, we get shut out by the mental health service, so we dont understand whats going on, but are expected to step in when they want us to. They expext the ill person to do all the communicating, and i understand (as i also suffer depression) that talking takes a lot of effort and relationships are sometimes too difficult for that. My son has been in the system 10 years and we have yet to have a meaningful discussiin about how he feels, because its too difficult fir him. The other thing is, people dont like to just listen and do nothing, the wrongly think because you tell them something they think you expect them to fix it. As a carer i only know this now, after going to a group for people carers of people with mental health.

[anniebooty in reply to oddday]

apologise for the late reply not sure how I missed the reply to my message lol. But anyway what you said is what I think too

Thank god for this website lol find helpful to talk about it and let off some steam and people here know what I'am talking about lol

[Iluvhorses]

1-What do you mean by "going on at people?" 2-Having a mental illness does not make you weak. It just means you're sick and everyone gets sick sometimes. 3-If anyone judges you for this then either they don't understand or they're being mean. Finally, it's definitely healthy to talk about your problems provided that whoever you share your private information with is trustworthy.

[anniebooty in reply to Iluvhorses]

apologise for the late reply not sure how I missed your reply lol what I meant by going on is talking about my issues constantly even though that person wasn't talking about it. I tend too keep it to myself until I pop but I have learned to talk about it too close friends Because I know there trustworthy but having said that I still yet to tell another friend whom I've known for about 6 -7 years not sure why I haven't but just haven't i guess lol

I'm not sure why I have these rules for myself like if someone sees me cry I personally see that as a weakness. And being sick etc

I do need to learn to be more nice and not to be so harsh on myself lol

[Iluvhorses in reply to anniebooty]

Maybe it has something to do with how you were raised or your environment? I am the same way in that we both need to be nicer to ourselves. Good luck!

[anniebooty in reply to Iluvhorses]

thank you xxxx

[Phope]

I know exactly how you feel i feel the same. I feel am a burdened to every1 around me i feel hopeless&worthless to soceity😢😢

[anniebooty in reply to Phope]

apologise for the late reply not sure how i missed it lol

but anyway just please know that theirs people here xx