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I'm new. Advice or more accurately a late night selfish moan.

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Hi,

I know all the information; I'm armed with the knowledge of how to eat properly, look after my body, and how healthy food works in sync with the body. I know if I continue on the path I'm going on then I'm on a one way track to a very large and expensive coffin, but I'm struggling to stop.

My BMI is almost 60, I've made myself disabled because my petite frame just isn't built to deal with another person and a half worth of extra weight on it. I'm currently fairly immobile, in a LOT of pain and on pain relief that's so strong it's considered a controlled drug. I can't work anymore and the only thing I can do to aid all this emotional trauma, is..... you guessed, comfort eat.

So yeah, that's me.. sorry for the depressive post, but I'm feeling my mortality a little at the moment.

L x

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Hi mrsd88 and welcome. I hear your pain but try not to be down. You've found the most supportive area and group of people I've ever come across.

I came here thinking that I knew all about weight loss but then 20 plus years of failing suggests that maybe I didn't :)

An administrator will reply shortly. My suggestion would be to follow the link that they provide. It will take you to the Newbie Club which will explain how to get the most from this forum. You will also be able to download the NHS 12 week plan (which many of us here are using). Have a good read or two of it and start from there.

After all that, my tip would be to come here as often as you can, as we're a friendly bunch and it's that support that helps many of us get further than we've been able to achieve before.

Good luck!

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dearest mrsd88.. you are telling my story! I am not really petite but I am on strong drugs as I have a pinched nerve in my back and terrible arthritis in my right ankle. I am sure I could move around more if I would just do it! together we can help one another I am positive. perhaps we could give each other some encouragement? I have been here awhile and this is the place to be I assure you. the people here are caring and knowledgeable. I know all the right things to do too but just refuse to do them. I found a diet, even tho I hate calling it that, called the Mayo diet that is going to take me where I want to go despite myself if I just remember that I am deserving of feeling well. I find that allowing myself to feel deserving is the hardest thing as I am sure that I deserve to be overweight and lazy... I am trying to change my attitude. here's to us darling!!!

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Hi and welcome, mrsd :)

It was feeling my mortality that brought me here, 2.5 years ago, so I do understand some of what you're feeling. We get ourselves in a trap and can't see the way out. We're overwhelmed by the enormity of the task ahead, so we try to erase it from our minds, with food.

I have a couple of quotes that I live my life by, one is "If we always do what we've always done, then we'll always get what we've always got". You've recognised this in your behaviour, so by coming here, you've broken the pattern. The next, "A journey of a thousand miles, starts with the first step". Well you've taken that first step, again by coming here. You just need to keep taking individual steps and each will bring you closer to the place where you want to be and each will be worthy of celebration!

Your next steps will be to read the information I give you, then download the 12 week plan, then join our weigh-in today and become a Wobble Warrior, then log onto our Daily Diary, for help with menu planning. 4 more small steps, but that will have a huge impact on your life.

Remember also, you'll never be alone, because we'll walk your journey with you :)

To make navigating the forum easier, we've put all the information you'll need in a newbie pack and here's the link

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Good morning mrsd88 and a very warm welcome to the forum 😊

Many of us here have had that pivotal moment when something just clicked, and step by step, we have turned our life and health around, and so will you 😊

We are all here for you whenever you need, cheering you on from the sidelines 😊

Very best wishes

Anna

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thank you every1. I'm starting again, again today. Insomnia played up last night and it was 5am before I even considered going to bed. I've also found out that my morphine causes me to pile more weight on even more easily :( feels like an uphill battle :/

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Step by step is my advice mrsd88. Tackle one thing at a time, breaking the healthy, life changing goals down into manageable steps. Then over time you will slowly change habits and create new behaviours.

Maybe today’s goal is not to eat rubbish due to tiredness-induced cravings. And a good nights sleep. What do you do when you can’t sleep? Could you listen to soothing music? Then at least you can lie there, close your eyes and relax. Insomnia is the pits 😕

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mrsd88 in reply toIndigoBlue61

It varies... some nights i'll eat til the wee hours, some nights I won't touch anything. My insomnia affects me by taking my sleepiness away and my desire to try to sleep rather than staring at the ceiling. I can go all daytime without eating then realise and over compensate in the evenings. Guarantee that 90% of what I'm eating daily is sugar loaded.. logically I know where I am going wrong.

So far today I've had 3 medium eggs on danish bread toast, two mouthfuls of juice and I'm making my way through a sugar free bottle of sparkling flavoured water. Oh and a cup of tea but hubby made it so I'm not sure whether it had sugar or sweetener in it.. so I'd say I'm not doing too bad I hope xx

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