Not feeling so great ..

So husband did his back at work yesterday. Not first time, and as self employed means no work no cash. Not insured either! Have tried to encourage him to get another job but I think he is very insecure and doesn't like change. I can't sustain mortgage and bills in my job so have gone own usual route of self destruction of eating and drinking wine. He is so skilled with stone and brickwork but attempted some ground work and was too much for him! Why does he just say NO. I got a bit angry and he has gone to bed leaving me feeling crap and most horrible wife in the world. Sorry for moan 😟

[Mollydex 1 stone Restart July 2024]

On dear , sounds like a really horrid day for you both. Please don't go into self destruct mode ( although I know that's a hard ask ) .it may not be too bad and he may be back at work really fast, back pain advice is to keep moving now

If still a problem , have you thought about seeing a chiropractor ? Just make sure they are registered with their professional society. I've used one before and the relief was enormous .

Comfort eating is the fall back for many of us on this forum , and it's OK for 24 hrs or so, but then think of all the good work you have done with your weight loss , and good healthy food is defiantly what you need in a crisis

[Anon-E-Mouse]

Hi Hidden

So sorry to hear your husband has hurt his back, I do hope he gets better very soon.

Don't worry about coming on here and moaning, we'd rather you did that than turn to food and drink. If you have though, don't worry about it, you have enough to stress you out at the moment, without worrying about food too. Just take one day at a time, that's all any of us can do.

I'm sending you virtual (((((hugs))))) and for luck 🍀🍀🍀 - tomorrow is a new day and a new chance for things to get better 👍

[Hidden in reply to Anon-E-Mouse]

Ty xx

[Hidden]

Oh no! I'm really sorry to hear about his back and your financial worries. I can understand why it has sent you into a spin. fingers crossed he heals quickly and can get back to work. try not to ruin all of your hard work with a second day of wine and food, as money issues are enough to worry about without ruining your amazing progress I know it's easier said than done.

[Hidden]

Thank you I'm feeling a little more positive this morning and think I managed to get to bed before too much harm was done! Anxiety and worry are hard to cope with sometimes. Thanks again

[Itsbab]

Hi don't worry I know the feeling😡😡😡 my husband is self employed and absolutely rubbish actually sorting himself out planning jobs, doing his bills rough so I can do them for him also his books, many an argument happens because of this, he to works when he has work but doesn't get stressed when he hasn't got any. Worst thing is I gave my lovely job up to help dad look after mum so no finances from me at the moment but have now got to sort another job again and at 56 it's a little worrying as age seems to be against me. My husband was also diagnosed wit MS last Christmas so something else to add to the mix.

Your husband sounds so laid back like mine and I upto recently used to worry like mad now I just leave home to it what lol be will be he either sorts himself out or I will do it for him and if he doesn't like the outcome tough. We can only do so much and you can't get a leopard to change its spots so to speak.

Please don't go the self destruct way I did that for years and ended up here like yourself, go the other way say to yourself "Your not going to set me back, I will win my battle wether you go to work or not".

Best wishes Bev

[Itsbab in reply to Itsbab]

Hope your hubby feels better soon, maybe he doesn't realise just how good he is with his work and stone masons are few and far between.

Once you have a back problem it tends to rear its ugly head every so often and proffesional help might be needed to ease it as his Job involves heavy lifting.

Best wishes hope calm is restored soon.

[Hidden in reply to Itsbab]

Your so right. He is so laid back he is virtually horizontal. Me on the other hand, well I like everything sorted and to know what's coming next and organised.

Don't think I did too much damage and it helped to talk on here. Day later and it's still helping by reading all these lovely replies. Thank you

[wa2un7 Maintainer]

It must be a worrying time for you. Hope his back improves soon. Give him a cuddle when he gets up. I'm sure he knows you didn't mean to make him feel bad.