Relaxing with T??

[Claire1210]

Christmas has been a bit hard for me this year. I am grieving my old life so bad at the moment. Sounds silly but just silly things like relaxing watching Christmas movies isint enjoyable when the hiss is super loud. I dare not enjoy a tipple because my brain is still so close to the edge and I feel I'm not strong enough for a hangover especially as I don't know how it will affect my t. I was doing well ish but I crumble in little bits easily. I just want to relax with my family and enjoy everything again.

[Vibe19]

This is my first Christmas with constant T - hard when you reflect back to last year. I have found being preoccupied with little nieces has helped a lot. I don't drink so can't feedback on hangover impact.

[shabbagaz in reply to Vibe19]

Same with me too since developing T in February. Keep thinking back "what if" and really crave what I had before.

On reflection though, since that horrific first month or two, I've coped well especially with zero support from my doctors and the NHS.

[Claire1210 in reply to shabbagaz]

I actually found it worse when I was trying to seek help from medical professionals because of the lack of interest from them. The tinnitus clinic was the only support I have had. I have been doing better buts it always on my mind every second of the day. My tones change about so much I find it hard to settle into not thinking about it. Wish they would find some help for us all.

[Jumpey]

Sorry to hear that you're struggling. It's perfectly normal to be grieving the loss of what was before. Perhaps some therapy could help with the process.

I drink wine. It does make the tinnitus a little worse but not horrendously. It's there all the time anyway.So I just enjoy myself when I want to.Sending love.xx

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I am with you been there take it easy things will calm down

I know it's easy for anyone to say take it easy

I am with u all the way

Sending hug and lots of love

[bridgeit]

A couple of thoughts that I can offer you. First, I've invested in a really good recliner chair and I make sure that I am super comfy when I want to watch telly. I have a power recliner with a power headrest which helps get my back/neck/head just right so that I can fully relax.

Second, I don't drink alcohol, but I've found a couple of non-alcoholic wines under the label "Rawson's Retreat" from Tesco. I think they're good; seriously. I thought they would taste like grape juice, i.e. sweet and sickly, but I was very pleasantly surprised. One is a very good red (I think it was cabernet sauvignon). The other is a sparkling chardonnay/pinot noir/muscat which I think is delicious when absolutely chilled to perfection. I indulged at Christmas. Both are non-alcoholic (0.5%). These are adult drinks, but without the risk of a poisoned liver or a hangover - and at least I could have a proper drink and join in with others!

No films scheduled on TV at Christmas this year served me as good T distraction; they were all so boring!

Nonetheless, I wish you a better New Year - and why not break open a bottle of that bubbly?

[Claire1210 in reply to bridgeit]

Thankyou the chair sounds like a great idea. Thing is I never really drank anymore anyway just knowing that I can't freely do things without worrying about my t or fully getting involved because I'm preoccupied to listen to this noise. I'm still a t newbie I suppose shouldn't beat myself up about it.

[ade-the-pade]

Hello Claire. I am with you with the grieving thing and being able to relax. I loved to sit and watch an interesting gripping crime drama or to sit with my kids and watch a family movie. Also, sitting in the garden and watching life drift by. I now have to put on masking devices with brown noise and white noise in my ears and concentrate really hard on the speech. A real pain.

I know that it does not do any good to dwell on this as there is damn all that we can do about it.

Like you, I drink very little as it is not worth the noise and headache.

Any way enough of my moaning. I hope you find some things to take your mind away from the T. We all have good days and bad days. I hope you get more of the good in 2020. Some day a cure will come.

Wishing you peace and quiet.

Ade

[Claire1210 in reply to ade-the-pade]

My friend put on Facebook the other about loving sitting in silence when the kids go to bed........................ My mood went down hill from there because I used to love silence all day long. I would just seat on the sofa and embrace the silence. Now silence scares and rush around trying to keep myself distracted. Miss just taking naps and movie days. Not that my son enjoyed movie days he would rather be outside so bonus for him.

[ade-the-pade]

Hello Claire. I would not say it is easier but i would say different. Like you , i have to keep busy all day. You miss so much of the simple things due to rushing about.. This is my new life and i have little choice or the T will drive me under.

Sleep is good with me and is great at the end of a busy day. My heart goes out ti the T sufferers who can't sleep. That must be true hell.

How is yours?

Ade

[Claire1210 in reply to ade-the-pade]

Yes I can sleep to fortunely at the mo you never know when things will change. Everytime I have said something is good so far it changes the next day definetly jinxed I'm sure I am.

[ade-the-pade]

When i first got T i did 3 days without sleep. Nearly went mad. Gp gave me zopiclone which were great for knocking me out.

[Sweeper]

Hi Claire your not the only one my tinnitus has spiked over Christmas and the hissing in my head is at an unbearable level I am dreading hogmaney and all the fireworks singing etc hopefully the festive season and newyear selebrations will be better for people suffering with this horrible thing next year we can hope anyway

[Claire1210 in reply to Sweeper]

I used to think I knew what made mine spike but now it's just random as it's horrible.