daughter won't let me share results "on the internet"!

[AtoZ24]

I previously relayed my tale of woe regarding my adult daughter, 49, being very overweight-not from overeating- with IBS, PCOS, migraines, sinusitis, hirsuteness, greasy hair etc, and bought an advanced thyroid test and paid for her to have it drawn at a clinic as she is needle phobic, -my sister and I also taking thyroid meds. The results came back and she says they are normal- 2. something TSH, and refuses to send me a copy to post for advice. Her folate and vit D are low-but I don't know what the readings are. I will just have to put it all down to experience and let her get on with it. Her GP won't action anything either! She is very intelligent,(believe it or not), being a vet, and is level 1 on the Autistic spectrum-not diagnosed until she was 44 so very protective of herself.

I read about the other Mum whose daughter is at uni, this is when things started to go wrong with my daughter, and because they are away from home, it's hard to keep tabs on the situation. Make the most of her allowing you to help her while you can!

Thanks to all who have offered information, but you can take a horse to water,.....

[AtoZ24]

Thank you-I have tried before, she is just stubborn! She is brilliant with animals, in her work, dilligent and painstaking! But when it comes to her own health... well, I can't live her life for her.

[DippyDame]

Vets are well clued up on thyroid function so she is probably well aware of her condition

Is she really stubborn, or just not yet prepared to accept she needs medication for life.

Or....more likely to have a group of unknown people discuss her private details and make decisions on her behalf on a public forum

She is an intelligent, mature woman and I can understand her reluctance to be organised by her mother. She most likely feels she is capable of making her own decisions.....part of caring is to allow our offspring room to develop. She has coped well thus far!

I'm the mother of grown up sons and the instinct to look after them doesn't go away....but we have to step back I'm afraid.

A quote I've often used says that the best thing we can do for our children is first to give them roots and then to give them wings. Be proud of her and quietly watch her fly.....she'll come back!

I think she'll know when she needs help and will make that decision independently...trust her

She will be happier and possibly more open with you if she knows you trust her.

[Regenallotment Ambassador in reply to DippyDame]

Well put DD, wise as ever 🙏

[AtoZ24 in reply to DippyDame]

you're right, I expect, it's just so hard standing by and not doing anything! I could shake her sometimes!! She's gone from a lovely looking girl to a podgy overweight lump, and I could cry.

[DippyDame in reply to AtoZ24]

It must be hard....but she's still your daughter inside.

Hope things get easier for you both and she realises she needs to look after herself

Take care

[AtoZ24 in reply to DippyDame]

thank you to everyone.

[Pandora777]

I am sorry to hear about your daughter and her health problems. I also have a daughter of a similar age and she has been diagnosed with celiac disease. The guilt I feel about this is because I know she has this because of me. I don’t have celiacs but I know there is a connection between it and thyroid disease which I have. All you can do is try to support her and hopefully she will seek medical help in the future.

[AtoZ24 in reply to Pandora777]

thank you.