I give up.....

[Popeye27]

My FAMILY don't care...my HUSBAND doesn't care ...he is my carer but he has deserted me since MONDAY... I was so ill I nearly died....I rang ..twice at his work place but did he come home to comfort me ...Nooooooo...NEGLECT ...pure and simple ....Sheer NEGLECT....I have GD, TED AND ALMOST BLIND...BUT NO ONE CARES...I HAVE NO ONE....I am home alone and desperate for help...I've rung my family this evening ..and texted them...and no one even answered....but I CARE .....I REALLY Care ...TOO MUCH...XXXBIG HUGS XXX

[2006]

I am so sorry you feel so bad. I truly hope things get better for you. I can only wish you the best and tell you you are not alone.

[Hidden]

Hi popeye, so sorry you are having such a rotten time of it it must feel dreadful for you.On a practical note is there no one who could act as a sort of go between to try and get you and your family back on better terms? Has your hubby done this sort of thing before, do you think it is temporary and heneeds bit og time to himself? If he is your carer and you are almost blind you need to let social services/your doctor kmow that you have no help.Plenty on here care hope things improve quickly for you sending hugs x

[Hidden]

So sorry that you are having such a bad time Popeye. My heart goes out to you. It must be really tough to feel ill and be dependent on others. I wonder though, maybe it has all got too much for your husband too and that's why he's absented himself. Please can you call your GP for your own immediate care, and also social services for practical help . And continue to post here in the meantime to lift the frustration of no one to talk to at home.

[Clutter]

((( Popeye ))) I can't add anything useful to the advice above but just wanted to offer you a virtual hug xx

[waveylines]

Big big hugs Popeye and a m sending you a virtual hanky -you will get lots of virtual support on here but the others are right -let your GP know so that you can get your immediate care needs met now. Am so sorry -it sounds like it might have got too much for your hubby too.... xxx

[Popeye27]

Thankyou so much ..I've been to my doctors ....after a massive fight with the stupid receptionist (she tried to throw me out) then another office worker stuck up for me and got me straight in to the best lady doctor there...so I sorted.now....and BTW...yes my husband still is ignoring me...and yes he has done this lots of time before...he can't cope..but won't accept any help...he has no friends...he's the deadly silent type....

[Hidden in reply to Popeye27]

You sound a bit calmer now Popeye.Glad you got in to see a good doctor.I thought it might be that your husband not coping.Make sure your needs are met and maybe given a couple of days your hubby might be back.Its a shame he eont accept any help it sounds like he would benefit from it otherwise this will just keep happening, take care x

[Popeye27]

I today rang my 2 yep 2 ex husbands and explained what's going on...they were both appalled ...they will support me ...one lives nearby ..he's a very poorly man with heart complaints ...he's my 1st hubby...my only sons dad..he's a good friend..unknown to my jealous husband....hehehe......and my 2nd lovely hubby...lives in Leicester..he's a top chauffeur with his own business ..he drive lords and sirs etc etc and George Michael.oh and ginger spice...I'm so so proud of him....he will be there for me to......my son rang me tonight with excellent news about him job...so all well for me....my husband can go boil his head....lol....

xxx big hugs xxx

[Hidden in reply to Popeye27]

Haha glad to hear you soundinh much better.Great you are going to get some support x

[denvajade in reply to Popeye27]

Hi Poeye your last post gave me a laugh! I am pleased you are feeling much better, its lovely that your ex's are good caring friends. I wish you well as I know sometimes its just too hard especially when those close let us down, its great to come on here and have support.

[Popeye27]

Oh and btw I texted and rang my favourite sister this evening and she ignored my texts and phone calls and. I put a message on her husband face book that wad ignore too....so be. It...I get their message...I will never contact them again xxx

[Popeye27 in reply to Popeye27]

And I know they were in because her Hubbie was on Facebook..

xxx big hugs xxx

[Popeye27]

And I rang my husbands sister...I asked if he had rung her ...she said 'no....not for ages why what's up'....I told her we had fallen out I was crying my heart out...but she said could she ring back she was just going to have her tea......I waited and waited but she never rang back....so be it.....

[Hidden in reply to Popeye27]

I know it hurts but sometimes family dont want to get involved and take sides.

[Popeye27 in reply to Hidden]

No...it's because they don't want to be lumbered with me...they'd rather I lived with my Hubbie...they stupidly think the sun shines out of his backside...little do they know..behind closed doors and all that !!!...I know cause they told me.xxx big hugs xxx

[Popeye27]

My sisters son has suffered from diabetics since his teens, he's thirty odd now...still lives with them....and her eldest son is married to a lovely lady with fibro ...I only hope she treats them better than she does me....and I looked after my mum for years after her stroke and then dementia....while she stood back and left me to it.....so did my younger sister....that's why I hurt so much because I care...I thought for years my eldest sister was my best friend...I loved her to bits.....so so sad...she's let me down terribly...me and my youngest sister never really got on...but I who have helped her because I care....

xxx big hugs xxx

[Hidden in reply to Popeye27]

Yes its not nice when you need support and people let you down especially if you are a giving person yourself,.Try and settle down for the night and get yourself some sleep its been a stressful few days for you and as you know stress makes Graves worse. Night night x

[Alley27]

Hi popeye, I am so sorry things are like they are for you.....memebers have all given you sound advice, and I agree that you need to contact social services to get the extra help you and your husband both need at home. I understand fully because my family don't help me much at all, but my friends are wonderful. Your husband could be overwhelmed at it all and he needs as much help as you do physically and emotionally. Please contact outside help it will take the strain from your relationship and will enable you and your husband to relax a little.

Please take care

xxconniefused

[Popeye27]

Well you wonderful people, I have left him....I'm on route to my sons home in Darlington...of course I will be booking a hotel room...don't want to impose on him too much...his wife to be wouldn't like that....!!!....I have to go home on Monday to pick up my script and more treasured belonging...course that B... Will most likely have thrown them in the garden....like when his previous wife left him...20 odd years ago.....hehehe...lol...btw he is so stubborn he refuses any help whatsoever...that's what we argue about....

..now take big deep breaths, little lady, this is a big big step to take...xxx big hugs xxx

[tilly83 in reply to Popeye27]

remember Shirley Valentine? Now maybe time to scrape together a bit of cash and book a break in Greece, on your own, with books and just lie looking at the sea taking a break for salad nicoise and Sangria....

[Popeye27 in reply to tilly83]

If only I could, I'm too ill to go on a plane, I had to cancel a must needed holiday to my long gone dad's favourite place, Malta, we had planned to go in May but had to cancel at the last minutes.because of my migraines....BUT we went to Elvendon instead and had a wonderful time....xxx big hugs xxx

[Popeye27 in reply to tilly83]

I went to our favourite place the little Market town, Thirsk, in North Yorkshire...for a long weekend...I'm back home now and doing fine, my Hubbie has just about calmed down...took some doing ...I left a some love notes in the spare room where he was ' hiding out' after I returned home my Monday Night....it's take till Wednesday night to make him understand...phewwww

[tilly83 in reply to Popeye27]

always good to get away x

[Popeye27]

I'll keep you posted.

xxx big hugs xxx

[Popeye27]

Well my friends, I'm staying in my favourite place in my favourite hotel, the Golden Fleece, in beautiful Thirsk, I phoned my Hubbie to tell him where I was...all he said was...'hmmm and how long are you staying there'.....I said 'I really don't know'....end of ....... So the ball is in his court...today I am doing a rented home search......because I'm an NOT going back.....xxx big hugs xxx