sex drive

[bossbird]

i dont have one anymore its gone why? and how do i get it back? i think my partner feels unloved

[greygoose]

It's just one of those lovely little hypo symptoms! Sex drive is, of course, controlled by hormones. We have a hormonel imbalance.

How do you get it back? Get your hormones - mainly thyroid - optimised.

Hugs, Grey

[bossbird in reply to greygoose]

i think im on the best ever treatment but still nothing

x

[greygoose in reply to bossbird]

You may be on the best treatment ever, but that still doesn't mean that you are optimised. Have you had all your hormones tested? You might be low on testosterone (and, yes, I know you're a girl!).

[Hidden in reply to bossbird]

Apart from thyroid hormones, are you on any other medication?

[sporty333]

I couldn't agree more. Basically zero with a horny girlfriend! Lol

[bossbird in reply to sporty333]

poor you if i find the answer i will defo get back to you with it x

[sporty333 in reply to bossbird]

Yeah I'm guessing its either adrenal or thyroid issues. I'm seeing me private doc Monday so if she gives me any answers.... ;0)

[bossbird in reply to sporty333]

where do you live I know a good endo in the Nottingham area but you will have to private message me if you want his details

[sporty333 in reply to bossbird]

Essex....miles away! lol

[bossbird]

been told to try Macas root its suppose to balance hormones ill let you know if i turn horny ha

[Lydia8132 in reply to bossbird]

didn't work for me unfortunately! Would love to find something "stimulating"! ha!

[elayneg]

Hi

I have been like this for 3 years and my partner feels very unloved but he tries to understand. I hope you have more joy from your Endo than I have had she looked at me as if I had gone mad. If you get an answer I would love to know. I am hyper and my hormones have ran away and are refusing to come back.

[bossbird in reply to elayneg]

Hi Maca root powder is meant to balance hormones and help

[elayneg in reply to bossbird]

Hi

Thanks I will definitely go and buy some miracles may still happen.

[AnthonyMs]

It's worse for males..

[greygoose in reply to AnthonyMs]

How would you know?

[Hidden in reply to greygoose]

I think you may have to agree to differ on this one!

L

x

[greygoose in reply to Hidden]

lol

[AnthonyMs in reply to greygoose]

Well, I think it's harder for men to use the same "excuses"...

[greygoose in reply to AnthonyMs]

I take your point, but nobody is actually making excuses, are they. If you don't feel like it, you don't feel like it! lol Perhaps honesty is the best policy here.

[AnthonyMs in reply to greygoose]

Well, no they're not, but the otherhalf usually don't understand these reasons and take them to be excuses. I still get my moments though don't get me wrong!

[greygoose in reply to AnthonyMs]

Don't we all, darling! Don't we all! lol

[Hidden in reply to AnthonyMs]

I think you may have to agree to differ on this one!

L

x

[Yana]

Try taking some zinc, not only is it good for your thyroid it's good for your sex drive! Why do you think oysters are an aphrodisiac, because they contain large amounts of zinc

Worth a try.

[Angel_of_the_North]

I find I have no interest until I get started, so to speak, and then I'm fine. Was much worse before biohrt, but adding a little T3 made a lot of difference.

[puncturedbicycle]

Same here. I guess it doesn't help that once I had no interest I didn't miss it, so I don't have the impetus to fix the problem, though I have been on t4, t3, progesterone and testosterone with no improvement.

[marram]

It can hurt your partner's self-esteem, and it's not good for one's own self-esteem either. But there are ways of making someone feel loved, other than sex. Let all those who don't have a problem right now take heed: Find other ways to make someone feel loved NOW, before the calamitous day comes!

I suspect it's tough for men because it more obvious if they are not able to generate any interest!

But that doesn't mean that it's not tough for women, just a different kind of tough. Losing one's sex drive is losing an important part of life. It's not an issue which the medical profession care to address when dealing with thyroid problems. Come to think of it, what issue DO they care to address? LOL

[Zabby]

It may be something else causing it. For me, addressing a magnesium deficiency really helped, and I'm sure there are other things like anaemia that can also have an effect. There are some good ideas here: oneextraordinarymarriage.co...

[bossbird]

how do i know i have magnesium or zink difficiency i have taken these in the past but my endo told me to stop

[penny]

This is a bit of a problem for me too; my husband gets quite 'funny' about my lack of interest. In fact I would say that I am quite happy without any sex drive but for my husband.

I've not had any hormone tests for years but do consider that I am almost optimally treated with T3 at 120mcg daily. I use progesterone cream and take supplements. I am well past menopause - although Dr P, quite rightly, says that one is never 'past' meno.. He also said that libido is usually the last thing to return; he didn't say that it might never do so. However, if one is not optimally treated until one is past,say, 80 then I doubt if it would ever come back, or if one would want it back.

The only 'glimmer' I get sometimes is if I feel really well and rested and spend some time meditating, doing the 'inner smile'. I can then just about summon up the...not quite 'energy' but the 'be- botheredness'. The pain can be quite off-putting. I know from my research that this is a very common problem for "women of a certain age" and that there really isn't an answer. I suppose that this only becomes a problem when partners are at differing stages of sexual desire - or lack of.

I have tried maca and horny goat weed (what a name!) to no avail.

[bossbird]

i love that horny goat weed ha made me smile, im with you not bothered but the partner is i do rfemember when taking magnesium and zinc it wasnt as bad who knows bought some today x

[dylansmum]

Try Andro-Feme it's a 1% testosterone cream for women. If that doesn't work

I will be amazed.x

[bossbird in reply to dylansmum]

hi where do you get it and is it perscription only? x

[coughcough]

My doc tried testosterone implants.

The only effect it had was my other half passing out when the doc brought out the scalpel!

Did sod all for me . . . . . .

x

[Lydia8132 in reply to coughcough]

Exactly the same result for me - I tried that one!