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serious Ibsc for 10 years and have been taking magnesium citrate with better results than I had with anything else. Its been a dreadful year I had a kidney removed in January last year as had carcinoma, my beautiful aunt died around same time and I couldnt even attend the funeral. During my recovery at home I had cockroaches crawling over me, an infestation caused by my neighbours (i live in a terraced house) and water pouring down the wall inside caused by my neighbours guttering, then my uncle died followed by another aunt 3 days later. The worst was to come when my mother died suddenly on Wednesday. Im distraught and im constipated and in pain, no sleep as my brain just wont shutup. I dont know how to cope with it all. I need some relief somewhere. Anybody know what I can do to help myself? Thank you

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Bannerbabe

Really sorry to hear this Dipsy. Can you get to a hospital to help with constipation

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dipsy14 in reply to Bannerbabe

No I cant get of the house ..house bound.

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Bannerbabe in reply to dipsy14

Can you ring a doc to come out to you

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dipsy14 in reply to Bannerbabe

I'll try ... I just needed to reach out im beside myself. Thank you for listening and giving comfort to respond

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bornagain47

Oh god bless you, no wonder you are distraught. Sincere condolences on the loss of your mum . I am afraid I cannot help you except to say see your doctor as soon as you can , he might be able to give you something to help you cope better, and something for the constipation. I do pray you feel better soon . Take care x

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dipsy14 in reply to bornagain47

Thank you, thank you for giving some kind words ... I feel isolated and knowing some people are out there makes me feel not so alone. I cant tell you how precious that suddenly is.

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lucy_7454

considering your circumstances your gp will definately be able to come to you for a home visit, im so sorry for your loss, perhaps the dr. Can get you a referral for cbt ie. Talking therapy, this has helped many people the world over and maybe ask for a short term mild sedative so your mind is not so active at night so you can get some much needed rest, which i think your probably not getting enough of at the moment. Or alternatively you could try calms night they have lavendar and natural ingredients to help you drift off. God bless you and i hope you. Can resolve your situation soon jo.

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KATRINA74

I really feel for you, like the others said ask for a gp home visit and take it from there. Will you be to go to your mothers funeral?

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dipsy14 in reply to KATRINA74

Yes but I have to be taken there. Im so full of dread though.

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weegmack

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for everything you’re going through. Bless you, what an awful, awful time. It’s so wonder you feel so isolated and lost. I’m sending you my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your mum.

I think it’s really important that you try and get a doc out to see you - is that possible where you live? You need help with you constipation and with your mental health. However, in the meantime...what do you normally take for your constipation? I have IBS-C and maybe I could help a bit with that while you wait to see a doctor.

Remember that we’re all here to support you. You can post on here anytime and feel free to private message me, if you would like. Xxx

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dipsy14

Thank you so much ... just knowing when I need it the most people are out there. I normally take magnesium citrate and make it manageable with diet. But not working now my insides feel they're in a vice and full of concrete. Ive decided to call doctor tomorrow.

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Magz5

I'm so sad you have had such a sad and painful time. Please try and talk to a doctor, I'm sure this would help to ease the pain...in many ways. Take care x

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Jnetty

Sorry to hear of all your problems, what’s been going on with all other problems can’t be helpin. It’s only quite recently I seem to have found relief from my ibsc. I am taking a natural supplement along with one sachet of Movical, it’s from twenty first century herbs it’s called Rhubarb Complex, I’m not saying it’s a cure all, but it has certainly helped me. Still tryin to get dosage right but it is such a relief to find something that helps after all thes years! They also do a herbal sleep formula which I am using that seem to help. Like your self I’m house bound. Being able to reach out on line is certainly a blessing. I do hope you find some answers soon all the best

Jnetty

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Kaspinallsgr8

Your stress is causing your body to rebel. First thing stay hydrated. A lot of people neglect to eat and drink water when overwhelmed in situations like yours. When a GP makes a home visit ask about having prescriptions to keep on hand to add in case the magnesium citrate doesn't do the job. Two that I like are Docusate Sodium and Lactulose. Both help because they cause absorption of water into the bowels. If you are severely impacted they might try an enema or something else more direct. Though you might not feel like eating try to eat lots of fruits like rhubarb, kiwi, mango, guava, raspberries and vegetables like chard, broccoli, artichokes if you can.

As for your emotional wellbeing, if you aren't opposed to the idea many churches have community outreach groups who specifically deal with bereavement and related depression. They will come to your house to visit and talk about your feelings during these difficult days. If you aren't religious it shouldn't matter. They are there to help people just like yourself to cope. They might leave you with some pamphlets to read. You might also check if your community have bereavement therapist /counsellors who may be able to come to your house. I hope these difficult times become more bearable soon.

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dipsy14 in reply to Kaspinallsgr8

Thank you, sadly there's a whole lot of food that makes really poorly. But yes im getting to understand I need some form of therapy to help me through. I know you have put a lot of effort in to send a long message. All I can say is thank you from my heart.

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Rosiepie123

I'm very sorry to hear of your sad losses. It always seems trouble comes in threes or more. I've experienced it in the past. The lack of exercise would make your constipation worse. Have you always been housebound and are you severely disabled? I'm just wondering whether you could do slight exercise movements to start with and drink green tea...as you have had a kidney removed, you must look after the one you have, so I would stay off medicine with strong chemicals....perhaps try herbal remedies? I wish you well and stay strong x

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dipsy14 in reply to Rosiepie123

Thank you so much for your advice, you could never how much I appreciate it.

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Maureen1958

Hi, so sorry about your mum and all the other problems in your life over the last year. I was just wondering if you managed to get hold of the doctor today and if they came out to see you? How are you feeling now?

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dipsy14

No gp didnt come out but spoke to me on phone. I hate being a nuisance. Its a crazy thing when you know you need help and then you end up kind of dismissing it. They have given me the number for Cruse. Thank you for listening ... I know I dont know anybody on this site but you and they are my secret friends where I can be myself and share some of my problems.

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Maureen1958

I'm glad you got to speak to the doctor and I'm sure they didn't think you were being a nuisance. I was gobsmacked when I first read your post but I'm not very good with words, especially when written. I find it easier speaking to people because although you might use the wrong words they can tell that you care. Do ring Cruse, I have rung the Samaritans on a couple of occassions and feel free to message me if you want.

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dipsy14

Thank you .. your so kind and thoughtful.

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