The first time, or even the second time, you talk to your doctor about your incontinence symptoms, you want to make sure that you are prepared for the discussion. Usually you want to make an appointment JUST to talk about incontinence, so that you have plenty of time to make sure all your questions are asked, and there is time to talk about your concerns. This article has a good checklist to help you prepare for those visits. I think it is helpful for any discussion, but especially when there is a difficult but important topic to discuss.
I hope you all find this helpful!