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Sharing that my daughter and I are meeting with hospice for in home hospice care this afternoon. I was going to wait for one more CT scan and oncologist visit, but this past weekend I spent the whole weekend in bed and had so much weakness and breathing problems that I can't put it off any longer. Hoping they get me home oxygen this week and that I feel better. Thanks, everyone for being here, for your support, kind thoughts and prayers. 💕🪷💕

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Dear NPmary: Praying you get the palliative care you need to make you more comfortable. It’s a difficult decision we all have, or will, face. May God the Father & the Lord Jesus Christ be your strength & hope now & eternally. 🙏❤️🙏

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NPmary in reply to hopenowandtomorrow

Thank you.

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TwithBC in reply to NPmary

Amen. beautiful and true.

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daniellebrooks13

Hello NP mary, I'm so sorry you are not feeling well. I hope palliative care can make you more comfortable and that you get some of your strength back. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

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NPmary

Thank you.of course, they are coming today so l feel a bit better.😆

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Totheriver

Hi NPmary

I hope they can make you more comfortable and that God may surround you with His love and give you and your family peace🙏❤️

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NPmary in reply to Totheriver

Thank you, I am supposed to get oxygen tomorrow.

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Totheriver in reply to NPmary

That is good and hopefully that will make you more comfortable

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Jhshl512

NPmary. So so sorry to hear. I know our good Lord will provide you peace and comfort. Always praying for all of us. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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NPmary in reply to Jhshl512

Thank you.

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Liessie2014

I am thinking of you , I am so glad you have your lovely caring daughter with you, ❤️

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NPmary in reply to Liessie2014

Thank you.

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nonna70

I hope you find Hospice as wonderful as my mother and I did. My only regret was that she didn't have them in sooner. God bless you and your family!

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NPmary in reply to nonna70

Thank you.

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Tolife_18

You’re in my thoughts and prayers 🙏

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NPmary in reply to Tolife_18

I appreciate you.

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Hopeful4Cure in reply to NPmary

We all appreciate the many times you have taken the time to reply to our questions, thoughts and concerns. For myself, you have been the extra wisdom I have needed to always put my mind at ease. You are a brave woman and I thank you for all that you have done for all of us on this forum with your non-judgemental support and advice. Sending warm blessings. xo

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NPmary in reply to Hopeful4Cure

Awwww, thank you.

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Rosiero

My thoughts are with you. The hospice will help you. Wishing you and your family the strength to manage the road ahead x

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NPmary in reply to Rosiero

Thank you.

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visitingnurse in reply to NPmary

God Bless you and your family. You are very blessed to have a beautiful daughter by your side.

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bikebabe

You’ll find that that bit of extra help - the oxygen and hospice care - will feel like a weight lifted and burden shared after all the daily hard work on your part to just keep going. Much love.

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NPmary in reply to bikebabe

Just got the oxygen, feels good.:)

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13plus in reply to NPmary

I'm so sorry to hear you had such a crappy weekend feeling so low. Glad to know you reached out and got the help you needed, and that it's making you feel better! My thoughts are with you.

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NPmary in reply to 13plus

Thank you.

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Merma

Sending hugs.

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Artesa

I am sure you feel relief that you made this decision. Hospice will bring you comfort and relief of distress, pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers NPmary, in my heart too.

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NPmary in reply to Artesa

Thank you.

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Likes

God Bless You and feel better soon!

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Figletf

Praying that Hospice can help you to feel more comfortable ❣️

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AvidBooklover

Hospice will be there not just for you, but for your family. Here's to you feeling comfort soon.

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NPmary in reply to AvidBooklover

Yes ❤️

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atoth17

May you find peace, comfort, and relief with Hospice. ❤️ ((hugs))

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NPmary in reply to atoth17

Thank you.

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Kruza

Praying for your comfort. 🙏🙏

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NPmary in reply to Kruza

Thank you.

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mbashura

My prayers are with you!

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Beattheodds

All on this site can empathize with your experience and wish you peace and love.

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NPmary in reply to Beattheodds

I know. Thank you.

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hurricaneheather

keeping you in my thoughts. may you be at ease.

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NPmary in reply to hurricaneheather

Thank you.

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MettavivorDS

It’s never easy hearing the news about someone in the community starting their final chapter. I feel for you and your situation. My father died at home without any hospice. It was my mother who took care of him and provided all that a hospice worker would have done. It was a lot for her and I don’t know how she endured it. I watched my parents go through this feeling powerless over the situation. It will be easier for everyone in your family, especially your daughter, to have hospice coming in to help. May every hand that touches you on this leg of the journey be a loving hand. ❤️‍🩹🙏

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NPmary in reply to MettavivorDS

Thank you.

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CatLoverinthe206

Mary,

You were one of the very first to leave a kind comment on my initial post when I was diagnosed a couple of months ago so it only seems fitting that you be the first post I send a supportive reply to 🤍

I am sending you comfort and good vibes from a sunny spring day in the Northwest and wishes for you to be wrapped in love and comfort in whatever form that looks like for you.

For me, it’s having at least one of my two cats near enough to pet and feel the purr, an episode of Schitts Creek and some kind of crunchy, cheesy snack on hand. 😽

I hope your care team, your daughter along with the oxygen have made you feel mounds better and that you continue to get the care you deserve 🙏🏽

We’ll be pulling for you and sending collective strength.

Onward ❤️‍🩹

Laurie

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NPmary in reply to CatLoverinthe206

Thank you

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NPmary in reply to NPmary

I am so happy you remember my being kind - it means so much. 🩷

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Dflur

God bless you and your family ❤️

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Loli19

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family ❤️

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love2golfwell

I am so very sorry that you are struggling. It must be difficult for you and your family. Sending you hugs and prayers that the care you receive will help and bring you and your family comfort.

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Dragonfly2

dear NPMary…sending prayers that this next step in your care gives you comfort and relief. I also reached out to see how palliative care could help me if and when I needed it. Wishing you all the best.❤️‍🩹🥰

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NPmary in reply to Dragonfly2

Thank you.

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Taurus28

Sending you hugs and prayers that you find comfort and peace with hospice!🙏❤️

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NPmary in reply to Taurus28

Thank you.

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monkeygirl62

I am so so so very sorry, NPmary.. I have been thinking about you and my heart ❤️ goes out to you. I wish I could give you a real hug. I would wear my mask I promise. Your posts helped when I joined this sacred group.I am glad to read you have the oxygen you need. I know you mentioned waiting a month or so for hospice but they will definitely help you be more comfortable and please don't hesitate to tell them when you need anything. I have not got a chance to meet you in this life but I know I will come to meet you in the next life when it's my turn. I will pray for you and your family for God's loving arms to hold you and your family, to give you peace and an all encompassing love. I am glad your daughter is there with you. Fridays and weekends seem to be the worst time when it comes to our cancer symptoms getting potentially worse. Please have your daughter call hospice and not to hesitate, since hospice has a special comfort care kit for just those times when our health needs change without warning. I don't want you to worry one bit but to know care is always there for you and your daughter too. Bless you Mary and your journey through this life. Lots of love and thoughts pouring your way.

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NPmary in reply to monkeygirl62

Thank you so much for your kindness and love. I am so glad to know that my replies helped some. I wish you and everyone here many birthdays, peace and love. 💕🪷💕

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jersey-jazz

My dear Mary----God bless you and keep you! XXX OOO

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wmaker

dearest NPmary

The hospice nurses will be helping you direct on how to feel comfortable. Praying for peace and that you and your daughter to not be afraid to access, have the medicine to help you feel comfortable.

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NPmary in reply to wmaker

Thank you, it's hard trying new medicine, l have always hated taking meds, but l am declining and trying. 🩷

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CyndiA

💞

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RLN-overcomer

I pray for you, and your loving daughter. Remember that as long as there is breath in our bodies GOD can work in healing us. I stand in the gap for you with my head bowed down, and my prayer hands u, as I pray for healthy restoration. Amen 🙏✝️🙏✝️😇

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NPmary in reply to RLN-overcomer

Thank you 🌺

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mudakurag

Sending many many positive thoughts and prayers🌹🌹🌹

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NPmary

Thank you, we are working with hospice to get symptoms under control.

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Rbeth

I just finished reading all of the posts. You are surrounded by love This will increase and bring more joy to our community. Time for me to go to sleep. Reenie.

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awesome4ever

Hi Mary. My heart goes out to you as you face struggles on this journey. When I became part of this board I scanned the board for people diagnosed around the same time as me...2018 and found your profile. I have always found your posts and responses to be so kind, realistic and knowledgeable. Hospice care is so specialized these days, they can really help alleviate symptoms that have lead you to this decision. I hope that is the case for you. Having your daughter at your side can be like a warm hug. You have been such a wonderful contributor to this board and I hope once they get some of your symptoms more manageable you'll be able to join us back here. Please remember you are in my thoughts. Take care.

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